I am married to a man who is 15 years older than me. We live a diffrent country than our families, and only last year I met his parent and relatives.
he has a brother who is almost 20 years older than him and who has 2 boys my age.
I really liked one of the boys, and i think he liked me, 'cause he was always around me, ( they stayed over our house for a few days). He even kissed me,( not on lips) and said he thinks likes me, but he meant as a person.
Then we left again and I sent hin a text, saying i missed him, than I sent a text again and said not to text me back.
Then I rang him to apologise for the texts and told him that I am usually not the kind of person who does that and never cheated on my husband ( which is true).
He said it's ok, I souldn't worry about it, but that he never thought of me that way. I don't feel anything for him now, But we will meet again this summer and I am embarrased. I don't want to be around him. Do you think he'll say something to me?I love hubby
2006-07-07 21:53:55 · 14 answers · asked by angel.2u@home 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i LOVE MY HUSBAND AND i DON'T WANT HIM TO EVER FIND OUT.
hE REALLY LOVES HIS NEPHEW AND HE LIVES ME.
THIS WOULD HURT HIS FEELINGS AND IREALLY HAVE NOTHING FOR THE GUY, IT WAS JUST A STUPID CRUSH THAT PASSED I I FEEL REALLY STUPID OF WHAT I DID.
2006-07-07 21:58:21 · update #1
You went through an experience that is not uncommon for marriages with wide age gaps. You connected with someone your own age. Good reason to give serious thought before marrying someone that much older.
It was a slip up, but no harm, no foul. It sounds like he's a respectable person and has no intent of saying anything. As such, I would just act as if it never happened and socialize normally. Otherwise, it may give the impression you're avoiding him because you don't trust yourself.
2006-07-07 22:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dale P 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Please stop panicking...you did not do anything wrong...even if you toyed with an idea in your head, you did not cheat or anything. I highly doubt the nephew will say anything, but if you want to be sure, have a discussion with him, however awkward that may be. Rest assured that you caught yourself before things went to far and that EVERYONE makes mistakes. Don't worry about it...if you love your husband, put this out of your mind, and continue to show him how much you care! Good luck.
2006-07-08 05:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to simply forget about it. You really didn't do anything to be ashamed of. I doubt the boy will say anything about it. When you see him again be friendly and distant.
I sense that maybe you got married very young and feel you are missing something. There probably was a spark of attraction between you and the nephew. And that is perfectly normal.
2006-07-08 05:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy tell your husband and forget about being nervous around the other guy just act natural for if you act different then people will now somethings up and start asking questions so live and learn and move on.
2006-07-08 05:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that by him saying don't text him, he was trying to pretend it didn't happen.
But just in case, I would fess up to hubby and maybe even shine it on a bit by saying something like "I just wanted him to know that I was glad I met him" and leave it be.
Figure out what you are missing in your marriage and work on fixing it, or you are bound to mess it up.
I ruined a perfectly good man/marriage and it started with my eye wandering and lead to a little more.
Be careful and BE HONEST.
2006-07-08 04:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hello to him and treat him politely and stay away from him. Don 't bring up the past. He maybe embarrassed also. He is a man. He may not have given it another thought. He might have a girlfriend by know.
2006-07-08 05:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U didnt did dat terrible a mistake n ya deres nthing to b embarassed off. If u love ur hubby dat much den tell it to him abt abt it so tht u dont feel embarassed.
2006-07-08 05:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by anu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really u have nothing to worrie about just dont say nothing to him but hi when u see him and just blank out what happend it is commen for things like that to happen we are only human and i know u love ur hubby thats why u didnt so there for u did nothing wrong and u should not worrie about it at all.........
2006-07-08 04:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by spongebobsquarpantsfreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well say something to you.
Likewise, he may exercise his better judgement and forget the whole thing ever happened.
As you said, this was the first time, this may be the last time, and nothing actually happened.
2006-07-08 04:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by thegreatdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT THINK THAT YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOU REALLY DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG. I DONT THINK THAT HE WILL MENTION THIS TO YOUR HUSBAND BUT YOU SHOULD BE SURE FOR THIS NOT TO HAPPEN AGAIN. AND NEXT SUMMER WHEN YOU MEET UP WITH HIM AGAIN ACT LIKE NOTHING HAS HAPPENED
2006-07-08 04:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋