why cant married men forgive there wifes for seeing other men?

Question

i was just wondering why husbands cant forgive there wifes for having other men who they see when they are lonley no matter how it looks we get lonley at times and need more than our husbands at times to make up for time we have lost before being married it aint that bad we have feelings as well as something that it can help us with our wants to i have a child who is.19. and my husband thinks he,s her father well he isnt ,

i have beenmarried to him for.29. years, now an he has never went out on me at all

Answer 1

why . you have stated you have a child.19. years old and he isnt this childs father woman when you marry it isnt to well let things like this happen in my opion i would not want to be in your shoes if he finds out that you are seeing other men while he is working te word that you are looking for is called .[adultry]. as well [cheap].you ask why well to start with you lack[morals]. in my opion as a wife as well being a mother as well . my opon is you only thought of yourself not him or the child she only knows as her father . you only thought of yourself in my opion . ?

Answer 2

Think about this, you were bonded together by the union of marriage to be one another's and to forsake all else. You did break a vow. A guy can't forgive often because of his pride. You just slaped him and said you aren't enough for me. Atleast thats how he sees it. I'm sure he won't emit it but he is probably very hurt.. If you felt he was too busy with his work, friends, whatever. You should first try talking to him. Try doing things to gain his attention. Some guys show their love by being the best provider they can be. The cheating would say nope I'm sorry all that you did just isn't enough. You can get attention without cheating. You just choose to get that attention that does cheating. Cheating is never right and everytime no matter how you feel it is your choice
and it is not right. No matter if it is a male or a female cheating.

as for msthinkpositive
I don't think that this current world condones men cheating like you think. In other parts of the world it is done b/c that is the way it has been. Many females for one male. But In most modern countries It is looked down upon. Even if their friends say good job.. Many people still say what were you thinking? you had a good marriage and wife and you stepped out on her. Cheating is wrong for anyone. If you wish to see someone else then break off what you have. Cheating is often very selfish. It is about what you
WANT. Instead of what is important for the couple. People are self centered as it is. Think more about everyone else and you, not just you. If you cheat you just need to grow up. The diff between a child and an adult is that you realize that you are in a world with other people and that you need to work together with everyone. A child really just thinks about theirselfs and what their needs are.

I'm not going to say this wife is a cheating whore b/c thats really true. She was trying to meet a need without doing it in the right manner. A cheating whore would be someone who always steps out on their husband/wife with diff people all the time. This wife is merely just thinking about her needs, wants and feelings. She is forgetting about her husband. The question for her should be if she feels that she needs someone else, how would she feel if he decided to get another female to meet his needs while she is busy with someone else?

Answer 3

This is a confession that you should be saying to him. Society has shown men over the years that it's OK to get away with womanizing as long as they don't get caught by the wives. Only, females tend to get carried away in some cases and bring back packages which will give them away, so it's not condone in our favor. If you were lonely, you should have tried spicing up your relationship with him by asking what he was missing to show a lack of interest on your part. Now you will probably truly be lonely when he finds out about what you did, and unfortunately, things like this have a way of coming to the light.

Answer 4

coming from someone who had cheated on my ex husband while i was married to him. Guys can't forgive because you have hurt their pride, just as i couldn't forgive my ex for cheating on me. Without honesty there is no marriage really. But that is your choice. You ask why a man can't forgive a cheating woman, well I also think that he expects from you what he give to you. He doesn't cheat on you so you shouldn't cheat on him. Apparently he takes his vows seriously. That is a good man, and you need to be honest with him, even if you loose him.

Answer 5

As a husband I did forgive and it got me no where! Why you may ask because after the forgiveness she went and did it again. The hurt of this is almost unbearable. And the trust will be gone.

Answer 6

well if a woman has found need to see many other men through-out the marriage she possibly has a sort of fetish of some type:
(maybe)
a. being caught and punished by husband.
b. slave to sexual appetites, which were not being satisfied.
c. need for affection,(sex as by-product of affection-seeking)
d. has been sexually abused/traumatised as a child
e. needs variety in sexual life/ which is best done as single gal

(I would not tell the man that you have explored sexually, apart from things he already knows... except for the bit on the child being of someone else...for you are only doing damage as well as putting yourself at great risk of harm.)

Maybe it is time to be a single person and explore your persona where your sexual need is. maybe he is willing to attend counseling....but I would tread softly with any man who may become abusive with knowledge of indiscrepencies...women have been killed for less, sweet-heart, please be careful!

oh one more thing~ you guys calling her names are whack!
women have a right to be sexual anymore....and every single person is different... you have no understanding of the relationship dynamics with just this one question, so get over yourselves.

Answer 7

I HAVE BEEN LONELY BUT NEVER FELT THE NEED TO STEP OUT OF MY MARRIAGE. THE REASON A HUSBAND CANT FORGIVE HIS WIFE IS THE SAME REASON A WIFE CANT FORGIVE A HUSBAND BECAUSE THAT THOUGHT JUST POPS UP IN YOUR HEAD OUT OF NOWHERE AND YOU CANT TRUST EVEN IF YOU WANT TO

Answer 8

you are lucky that you have a husband that do not cheat just be gratefull and appreciate him for what he is i have a husband and he keep talking to women on line i have caught him several times and each time it get worse! i no longer trust him and its hard to see a future with him that is not a good feeling do yourself a favor and be good to your man if you have a good man hold on to him.

Answer 9

because they give the other guy the sex that you have earned and very well deserve! but these women just throw it at any tom with a dick thats hairy!! and wont even give you a blow after a hard days work!! that pays her bill she runs up all day every day.

Answer 10

Your just nasty. It's women oh let me rephrase that whores like you who give decent women a mad name. If I were him I'd throw your *** on some corner. Disgusting... U have balls to ask this f*cking question.