2006-07-07 21:21:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
On the one hand, the other member of the relationship may just be showing their affections a different way, a way in which you can't really grasp. But that doesn't really work if you can't feel the affection, so yeah, you should probably leave.
On the other hand, they could be a jerk, so you should probably leave.
On a mutant third hand, they might have something going on in their life right now that's causing them to enter an automaton state, in which case it might be best to try to help them get back to the way things were when you were, presumably, happy. So in this case, however unlikely as I assume you'd know if there was something going on, you should probably not leave.
2006-07-07 21:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by thegreatdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as your only wasting your time on them. If love and affection is not reciprocated then its just a one way relationship and that's hard to maintain and only helps to lower your self esteem and you end up miserable. Do you really want to live the rest of your life living without and real love and affection in it?
Id say, leave this relationship you deserve better....out there, one day, you will find someone else who will really appreciate what love and affection you have to offer because they will offer what love and affection they feel for you to in return.
good luck
2006-07-08 06:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the lack of affection has a different reason. Maybe it has nothing to do with you. Maybe he or she needs your help and love to work it out. You cannot quit if you do not know if you are the reason or not. It might be worth while hanging in there! If you do and it pays off, nothing is lost. If you don't, what will you lose? New relationships will allways be difficult because you still pine over the unanswered love. Love you still have, right? Why savagely kill your own love for your partner. Use that love to help your partner find out the answer.
2006-07-08 04:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Enduringwisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My fren just went through this and my advice to you will be the same as to him. Staying on in the relationship will not be fair to you. We all need to feel loved and cared for. If you're not gonna get it from the relationship, you'd probably be miserable and turn your attention elsewhere to escape the problem at hand. So confront the situation and if you want to save the relationship, be honest wid the other party, talk it out and see if both of you can agree on making it work. If the problem persists, just leave.
2006-07-08 04:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by singaporegirljuly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what made her that way .sometimes people just get sick of putting up with b-s. she is probably feeling lack of respect. i dont show my husband affection because he is a lazy a-- hole. i could clean the whole house before work and come home to a dirty house 6 hours later i have to throw the garbage at him so he will take it out. last week i asked him to make the bed and he said why do i have to do it. i work 2 jobs take care of a six year old and i never ask him for money. it would be nice if a light bulb went out and he replaced it without me asking. so sometimes its for a reason think about it
2006-07-08 04:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you love them. Sometimes self-torture today will create less regrets in the future . . . and other times it is just self-torture. My wife hasn't had sex with me in over two years (legally seperated, but not yet divorced). She has not returned my affection to her in almost a year. She hasn't told me she loves me in six months. She lives hundreds of miles away. But I can not help the way I feel about her.
Do what comes natural whether that is contining in the relationship or smashing him over the head with a hammer. j/k about the hammer.
2006-07-08 04:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he/she only seem to give affection when they want something? Do they want to hold your hand or be with you when they dont want to be intimate? There are many questions that need to be asked before a real answer can be given for such a vague question.
But the gist of it is, if you dont get what you give, then go find someone who really cares for you. Its just heartache for you otherwise.
2006-07-08 04:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by SilverWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
draw a line down the center of a piece of paper--left side write positives--right side write negatives---start filling in the list and see which has more if it is the negative side pack your bags --do not make it to difficult either simple things like---opens car door 4 me + or blows nose at dinner table - easy like that
good luck
2006-07-08 04:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by karlyk721 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What relationship?
You don`t have one. Yes, Life is too short to be in a relationship that gives nothing back..
God bless & Hugs from Texas. {:-)
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2006-07-08 04:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if da person is nt in luv with u...but if da person is kind of has a wall built around him then first u shud try 2 break da wall....n try 2 tell him or her how u r feeling
2006-07-08 04:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by archana r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋