Ok, so recently i met this girl in college and we've been seeing each other and hanging out for the past 4 months. 3 weeks ago i confessed to her about my feelings that i really like her and she said she likes me back., but she wants to stay single for now because she needs to learn to grow as a person. And i told her that I'd wait for her because she really is worth the wait, and i dont mind waiting. so a few weeks past and yesterday when i asked her to hang out, it was the first time she said i dont know. and then she said i dont wanna keep saying i dont know so i wanted to tell you that i feel awkward after we hang out because of the thought of me waiting for her makes her feel weird. So i asked her what she wanted to do about it and she said i dont know and that maybe we shouldnt hang out anymore. And every question i asked from then on is an "I dont know." And she later told me she felt that she can't open up her feelings to me and now i dont know what to do.
2006-07-07 20:25:46 · 20 answers · asked by lod_d2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She also said that we cant have a "real true friendship" because I have feelings for her and im waiting for her. Im so confused about her mixed emotions and I dont want to lose her as a friend either. Can someone please go about telling me whats the best thing to do so I can save what her and I have now??? Thx!
Update... she just called me and we chatted on the fone for 30-40 minutes, but she sounded happy more than usual to talk to me, and when i asked what shes doing shes like im on the fone with u silly... and usually when we talk shes either listenin to music or reading a book or something.... oh and she messages me good night on aim everyday. . .
Update again... she called me again 3 days later and she said that i shouldn't hesistate to call her to talk to her..... and i told her that i wanted to give her space and time so that she could think things through and that ive been hanging out with other people lately to get my mind off it..... and she was just like OH!....
2006-07-07 20:25:56 · update #1
Your story is too long to read and answer. Please in future keep in short and precise.
2006-07-07 20:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, you two are on two different parts of your friendship. She became ready after thinking about it according to the updates, but you feel the need to give her time to think it over. Do that- give her time to think this thru- she may think your being wierd, but all your doing is letting her sort her feelings for you. She needs to figure out what she wants, you did- but the way you did it was in a more mature fashion. Give this some time- have a good long chat about what you want
2006-07-08 03:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by kmrelo04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playing with you. She's bored and you're like a mouse for her. (Even if she is a good friend) She likes you liking her, and she should stop behaving like a girlfriend (eg.Texting b4 you both sleep) if she wants to be single. She's ( I hate girls who do that). I have a male friend who thinks he and his best (female) friend should be together, but she leads him on, then ums and ahs and pulls away. THen she needs her ego looked after, and wants to feel desired, and goes back to him. Keep it as a friendship, and put up boundaries, otherwise she'll hurt you in the end.
2006-07-08 03:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r sending mixed signals. u can't tell her u r willing to wait on her, and then say u r hanging with other women. u just let her know your patience is short. u cannot hold your feelings for her over her head. let things progress naturally. what is the rush? be her friend let her be yours. develop that relationship. continue to confide in her. find out where her head is on other issues of interest. u have time. give her some without malice.
2006-07-08 03:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by SJ DUB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! I had the same problem!
Thing is she'll come around, you just gotta hang in there, If you really care for her you'll sacrifice time and energy on her.
If you find your self thinking you should stop waiting for her or looking for someone else, then maybe she's not for you, but if you feel like there is no one else, like she drives you to excel, like you want to be a better person because of her, like you just breathe and close your eyes and all you think is her, go for it man! and don't despair, don't give up and don't fear success or failure, just do it!
2006-07-08 03:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Radwan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just trying to see if you'd really give her space.... I would keep it cool and back off and let her call you. That way she won't feel so awkward and you won't feel hurt. Eventually she will learn what she wants in life. Everyone needs to grow up and have their own space. How old are you both?
2006-07-08 03:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tainted_Halo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asks for space, give it to her. You did it almost perfectly. The only way it could have been better is if you let her come back to you. And now, if she wants you to call her, CALL HER!! Do not hesitate to pick up the phone. Sounds like things are going pretty good to me.
2006-07-08 03:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounded to me like you might be infatuated with her, and she felt uneasy about it. At the same time, it sounds like she told you what she wants and you are not listening to her fully. She needs her space, and you need to respect that. Just back off and give her some room.
2006-07-08 03:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks to me that she was hinting that she liked you, and she wanted you. but you didnt see it, and pushed her away, by telling her that you were giving space. what you should do, is call her, and start hanging out again. thats the best you can do, for now. but hint BACK to her, that you can still be together. if she still wants to, she'll come around, if not you didnt SAY anything, and you still keep your friendship. good luck
2006-07-08 03:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear freind
1st of crores of cheers for you and millions of claps for u dear you are in the position where you dont wanna loose her and think
that yoou will loose her wenever u talk to her on phone always speak slowly and tel her how beauiful she is and one think wenever youn again meet her at the time you gonna say bye to her dont say that just say i love you and say u r alwayz with me so ill never say bye to you. and tell her that u r not forcing her to love her but she cant stop u loving her. then see the miracle within few weeks
always keep saying these thing
best of luck
2006-07-08 03:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by HARIS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unbalanced relationship will not make you happy at all. Try to keep a low profile....... it may change her mind... if not draw the consequences and leave her how hard it may be.
2006-07-08 03:30:47 · answer #11 · answered by guy in Yemen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋