How to stop workplace rumors about me?

Question

A few caddy femals have decided they just hate me - and so....the rumors never end. I blew it off at first - but they continue. It starting to get me down b/c it's constant - I need a non-threatening way to confront these girls individually

Answer 1

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Why do they hate, and why should you care? In most offices there are these kinds of things that do happen and the best thing is not to react.

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Answer 2

I'm sorry, I personally know how hard it is to deal with. But confronting them is probably the worst thing you can do, b/c they will get more cruel.

What you can do is make it less attractive for them to gossip. They are doing it to get to you...so don't let it. If they see it doesn't bug you, they'll tire of it.

Also, if there is something you are doing to fuel the rumors, don't do it. For example, people saw myself and another person together after work and started a rumor even though we were only friends and both married. Well, we stopped talking for months at work and the rumors stopped.

Before that, people would say things about me b/c they were jealous of my weight loss (women are sooo catty!). If they said something about me looking like a stick, I would say "thank you!" and flash them a big smile. Or if they asked about my diet, I'd give dieting advice about "everything in moderation" or something and sympathize with how hard it is to lose weight, etc. I'd even tell them to exercise but say I was too lazy myself to do it, and then laugh. Then I was no longer a "threat" or a "diva" to them. I became human.

You see, you can't show you are upset or they will win. If people have questions abt whether you do this or that that they heard through a rumor, give a general answer, and shrug it off like u don't care and you have nothing to hide.

If it does not go away, you can always report them. But then they can retaliate.

I agree with the taking food in idea also. I've made plenty a friend that way myself.

Answer 3

Start spreading the truth. Plus, if everyone at work knows your character, they will know that the rumors aren't true. Eventually if you ignore them and no one is buying into the rumors, then they will quit talking about you all together. It's never fun making fun of someone when it seems to have no effect on them. And if all else fails, go to a supervisor for advise.

Answer 4

properly, particularly a lot you're in a challenge the position you quite ought to do some thing...specially because some thing you do will improve the gossip...if you're married, make positive you carry her up in communique with the girls. if you're unmarried, delight in the undeniable reality that one and all of those females are speaking about you. except the rumors are that you're a gay (which there is no longer some thing incorrect with that - Sienfeld episode). I experience considering they're inviting you out to beverages, that it ought to easily be the girls on your workplace being somewhat sophmoric, it truly is fantastic for his or her age.

Answer 5

I really like everyone else's answers, but have you tried to be nice to them? Bring in something (donuts, light snacks, candy) for coffee breaks or just something to munch on? If you work directly with them, ask them if they need help (if you can offer it) with their workload. Tell them good morning? Smile at them? If all else fails, you could play 'dumb' and talk with one of them (the nicest one) as if you don't know she is spreading the rumors and ask her why are these things being said. Get her to talk about it as if she had nothing to do with it. This will help you to understand what is going on and it will let you get your side of the story out. Then you'll know what to do if anything further needs to be done.

Answer 6

why none threatening? .... face to face ask what her problem is..ask her are you.."insecure, jealous, got a little envy growing there? seems you have a problem with me, if you want to spread rumors or talk about me ask for facts first I'll be more then happy to enlighten you".... funny thing when you confront people they back down and you solve the problem embarrassment on their part is an advantage for you...if all else fails take on the biggest one and knock the snot of out her.

Answer 7

Go to them Individually and say for example "how does it feel being a lesbian?" and she ask you where you got that tell her one of her friends told you so, and to the other say "you know being a hooker is not a bad thing as long as people don't know about it" she is going to ask you what are you talking about tell her tht her friend told you, Believe me they'll hate it each and they'll never spread rumors again.

Answer 8

That sucks but there's no obvious solution. If you really can't handle it, talk to your boss, if you're boss is an understanding person. You could talk to the girls individually, but that might add more fuel to their fire. They'll just talk with each other about what you said. I'd rather confront them together.

Answer 9

Is there a reason why these rumors began? I don't know your situation, but rumors normally stem from something that actually happened. That is, unless you work with some VERY immature people...but even then I don't know why they would do that out of nowhere.

Answer 10

You've already given yourself the answer. Comfront them individually. Talk to them calmly, and find out what the problem is.
If they continue, just try to ignore them completly. They're not worth it.
And if it is too much, so much that you can't really avoid them, talk to your and their superior, and tell that this is affecting your work. Maybe they can help.