i just slept with someone new my 2nd sex partner ever we've only known each othwr a few weeks we met last weekend in poerson at a friends party and we;ve gone out a few times well tonight out of spontinaity we had sex and i kinda regret it because one i feel cheap 2 it was too quick 3 i felt nothing and 4 im still in love with an ex who i know there is no chance with we're too different now, my ex is so troubled hottt and an ***, the new guys dorky looking and acting but very sweet but idk if hes my type i feel kinda dumb having sex with him though it was hasty now i feel awkward im generally an insecure person what do i do? im questioning myself about alot should i regret it am i cheap idk what to rthink or what to make of the situation
2006-07-07 19:48:08 · 9 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't beat yourself up over it... everyone makes mistakes. Just learn from this and don't sleep with anyone unless you're really sure it's what you want. Good luck:)
2006-07-07 19:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you see if there is more there with the "dorky" guy? Sometimes people don't seem like our type, but turn out to be great people. If you know now or find out later that you are not interested in him, don't feel bad and beat yourself up about it. We're human and we make mistakes. Sometimes we just want to feel close to someone and since this guy is sweet, it may have seemed like a good idea. Try to learn from this experience so you don't feel this way again. All the best...
2006-07-07 19:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kincat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the dorky one know how you feel because he may have new expectations for your relationship, two get over the other guy , and 3 learn from your mistake and know not to get hot and heavy until youv'e know then guy for longer than a month ( some people are good at hiding their true selves) and 4 don't beat your self up because your only human
2006-07-07 19:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person, just human. Sometimes we have needs and the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Turn your regret into a learning experience. Most of us wind up with 'Masters Degrees' when it comes to lessons learned from bad relationships. Give yourself a break. If it felt like the right thing to do at the time... it probably was!
2006-07-07 20:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by deedavisisland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop beating on yourself over this. You are not cheap. You made a mistake, and humans tend to do that. However, the majority of them learn from those mistakes. Sex is a wonderful thing, but it comes with responsibilities. As one of the other posters said, make sure you love the person you are about to have sex with. Also, make sure that you are old enough to deal with the immense responsibilities that accompany it. Work on your feelings of insecurity. Be careful, please. I'm only telling you what I'd tell my own daughter if I had one. :) Good luck
2006-07-07 20:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by futurebtmfdr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you don't have anything to feel sorry about. If he is a nice guy and you like being with him, try giving him another shot.
It is more than likely he was very nervous tonight too and might not even be more experienced than you. I can be exciting to have a relatioship like that, were you both have a lot to learn and can learn together.
2006-07-07 19:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is done cannot be undone. If you are not seeing him anymore, just get on with life.
2006-07-07 19:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by water bottle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop having sex with people and get your life straightened out.
wait till marriage.
2006-07-07 19:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by ugafan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it dont feel right in you mind dont do it.pease of mind is all we have left in this world.
2006-07-07 19:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by cwhonk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋