The one person I thought I was going to be with for the rest of my life will not talk with me. But I need closure, at least something that I can put all of this behind me. How do I do it if they will not even spare one glance at you, let alone a word?
2006-07-07 19:36:47 · 17 answers · asked by WantToGoHome 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
write a letter telling tha person how you feel. Tell them everything. Then when it is done put it in you dresser drawer. Wait one week, go back get the letter, read it. If you still feel the same way about most of it, mail the letter or if you feel better tear it up and throw it away. It has worked for me many times!
2006-07-07 19:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by BoccBoccMeow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want that person to spell out for you that they don't want to be with you? They don't want to. They don't want to give you closure. They probably think that by avoiding you, they are also avoiding hurting your feelings, which they really don't want to do. They want as little confrontation as possible. They don't want to have to see themselves as the bad guy, because then they will feel guilty.
Don't keep calling, emailing, driving by, or anything else that you might be doing. Just stop. Find other things to do, and just grow apart from this person gradually. It is painful, but you will meet other people, make new friends, and realize in the long run that it was better for you not to be together. If they want to contact you, they will, so don't appear like you're desperate, because every unreturned call or message is one more to think about.
Good luck.
2006-07-08 02:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's start with the basic problem, he/she won't talk to you. if he/she won't make the first move, why don't you? have you tried starting conversation with him/her? do you even see each other that much for him/her to even look a you or talk to you. let him/her get to know you first. let him/her know your somebody and catch his/her attention. it's in this stage that he/she'll decide if he/she likes you back. then maybe you can start talking. but don't try too hard that in trying to impress him, you become somebody you're not. next, maybe he/she already know you and doesn't like you back. it doesn't mean that since you wanna spend your life with that person that he/she feels the same way. give him some time. once you're sure he/she doesn't like you, cry, frown, emote or whatever, but not too long, just enough to let out your pain. and then try getting to know other people, maybe the one for you is just around the corner. also, this doesn't mean you two can't be friends. who knows? maybe after you become friends, he/she will come to like you. good luck! wishing you the best!
2006-07-08 02:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Aldea C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself--did they ever spare a word. If the answer was no. Shake them loose. If the answer was yes. Then ponder the evidence. Is it he or she that is doing the alienating or yourself. Or, possibly, both. Plan a seclusion to which neither can avoid the other and then confront your problem. Honesty, with yourself and with the other person is your only avenue. It is easier to be honest with the other and not so with one's self.
2006-07-08 02:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you meet that person later on down the road and you talk, then you can ask what went wrong and you can get your closure. By then, both of you will be ready to talk about it.
2006-07-08 03:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by silverjacket9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that they won't speak to you is unfortunately your closure. It is hard, but the sooner you accept it and try to move on the better. Don't waste a moment of life on someone who doesn't appreciate you for who you are!
2006-07-08 03:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by jezkap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont do it. Just because you need closure dosent mean you get it. The other person thought they were getting a great relationship but they didnt get that did they? NO!
2006-07-08 02:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana Shaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write that person a letter telling them how their treatment has made you feel even if you don't send the letter to them.You will get all your feelings out in the open and then you can quit wasting your time and start looking for someone who will appreciate you.
2006-07-08 03:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe write them a letter telling them how you fell and that you need closure. That may motivate them to talk to you. They might not even know you feel this way.
Good luck!
2006-07-08 02:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by PANDABEAR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every second you spend wanting this person is a second lost with another wonderful person that wants to be with you. Drop the first person now and find someone else.
2006-07-08 02:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by Richard Lane Sweden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋