Why do I feel like this?

Question

Mann.. How come I feel like I'm gonna go crazy?! I feel like why was I even born?! I have divorced parents and I'm the only child. I live with my Dad and stepmom with two half brothers. I'm 17 yrs old. Today my dad told me, You need to get a life. That was hella cold but yeah he said that. He told me the problem is, is that you don't socialize with people. He said I'm always stuck in my room and that my world revolves around the computer. It's cold what he says but, I guess its the truth. Mann.. I need help. I don't know how my life will turn out in the end. Everyday there's problems. I just want to enjoy my life but I need the confidence on how to "talk" more and to open myself more. All my life I've never had a older brother or older sister to look up to. Damn, I wish I would atleast have a real brother or real sister. It's kind of hard on me right now. I just need that confidence from someone who can help me with my life and to "go out" more often. any ideas and comments? thank you.

Answer 1

I really do think they are right and you need to get out and socialize. Do something easy like go to a movie. Or, you can start a new hobby like rock climbing or remote control cars. Any hobby that gets you out of the house will expose you to new people and open new doors. Good luck:)

Answer 2

First off Joshua you are exactly like a million other teenagers. I can not count the number of times I have heard my sister yell at my niece to get off the computer and get a life. Have you ever gotten together with any of your on line friends in real life. Most people do not so maybe it is time to take a break and try meeting "real" folks. Get a part time job and you may end up meeting some buddies to hang out with. Keep in mind that the person you are in high school does not set the pace for the rest of your life. Take a good look at your self and pick out 3 things about you that you have to offer other people. Don't say there are none because they're there. You are not the only one who feels this way. Check out some of the local teen hang outs like paint ball field arcade whatever you enjoy. just say hey to someone that seems to be there by them self also.

Answer 3

You need a mentor. Which is a "big brother" but for adults. Do you have a job? Consider looking for an internship where you can learn something new. Make a point to try something new once a week. It doesn't matter what it is. Anything you've ever thought is kinda cool. It makes for great conversation especially if the things are random and fun. It's easier to talk to people when you have stuff to talk about or have great stories to tell. Not many people are interested in talking about how you played video games for 12 hours straight. Peel yourself away from the computer and just go do it. You're not going crazy, you're in a rut. You are at an age where you need to try to pull yourself out of it. Good luck to you hon.

Answer 4

Don't take your father's words to heart too seriously, sometimes you need a parent to just remind you about something that you may be doing too much of the time that is not good for you -as in your case with sitting at the computor too long. Try to go to some sports centers where they play things like football, bowling or even snooker or something that interests you. You will eventually find new friends. You don't have to spend all your time there, just spend less at your computor. You could put two days a week aside for other activities. If your dad saw you doing something else on a couple of days of the week , he probably won't say anything again. He just wants the best for you. Also try ( if you can ) to enjoy time at your mother's house , maybe helping her out with some things on any one of those 2 days of the week. Talk to your mom and dad about your feelings too. I am sure it will help. Sometimes stepmoms are not that bad either, talk to her. I wish you the best !!

Answer 5

Kinda sucks, but look you'll turn out just fine if you believe in yourself and don't let people put you down. Life doesn't make you anything you don't want to be. It will give you obsticles to teach you, it's how you solve them that helps you learn. Anyone that tells you to get a life usually doesn't know what they are talking about. Getting a life is like the sun shining it's already there. I think he just wants you to get out and do things. Not like hanging out at the mall or the library. Just get out of the house from time to time. Go to the same places about the same time everyday and you'll meet people. Even if you're shy. If you want real opportunities for having fun going the military. Anything that you can travel in. That way the next time someone tells you to get a life tell them the only place I haven't been to yet is hell.

Answer 6

I remember how I used to feel like that...the emotions were so overwhelming sometimes. And I have a sister to talk to. So I commend you in your single-childness.

Don't worry, I'm the quiet type, too, and I find it hard to converse with people. You learn as you go, though. For me, I found two great friends who are also quiet, but we bring out the craziness in each other.

You say you want to enjoy your life...so go ahead. Nobody is stopping you but yourself. Your dad may say things like that, but it's not the end of the world. Maybe he also has his moments. Plus, it's summer...you've got too much time on your hands to hang out with strangers on the computer all day. :) Go to the beach or take up photography. In other words, enjoy life.

I wish you all the best!

Answer 7

Um..you were born because of a sexual union by your Mom and Dad. After that..were all alone in this world. The sooner you realize that truth the better..and stronger..you will be.

Enjoying life is a nice concept..but most of us dont get to do much of that. Were too busy making money and taking care of responsibilities weve chosen for our lives. The "Enjoyment" comes after the day is done..and a job well done. it usually revolves around small treats..not major ones.
No One knows how theyre lives will turn out..but thats the real beauty of it..isnt it? Joseph Campbell said.."When you find yourself falling...Dive. Do the thing that needs to be done!"

Life isnt easy..it never has been..and never will be...it is exactly what it is..it is what you see..until you dont see it anymore. it IS your life tho..so..what do you want to make out of it. ...and be realistic....the Lottery is for suckers.

Going out...or, Socializing is an everyday thing..at work..at home..at the place you happen to be now......your always socializing..even if your quiet. because your here means your socializing..just do more of it.

become Interested..become interesting!!! Do something..learn something..learn to play the guitar..or make paper..or draw..read Shakespear..or Sylvia Plath...learn to become interested/interesting. become Three-Dimensional..its about time..isnt it? Your growing up..so its about time you grow...up..out..around..and through!!

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Answer 8

Your already half way there to answering your own question by being mature enough to accept the truth of what your father told you even in light of how brash it may have come across. The other responses are full of lots of good ideas - consider them. I just thought I could add a little something that might stroke your self-esteem. Hang in there.

Answer 9

you do have confidence. You jsut opened up to millions of people online. If you are still in school there has to be atleast one person that you are friends with. Ask that friend to go do something. Hang alittle bit. Then when you feel comfortable with that go with them when they hang out with thier friends. Go to a cyber cafe and meet computer people there. Join one of the game clubs there and make friends that way.

Answer 10

Just be yourself.
Every one of us is unique and different in many ways.
You're ok, others are ok as well.
Your dad's advise is a loving concern for you, rather than a criticism. He just don't know how to say it the way you like it anyways.
When you love others, you're in fact attracting the same vibrations towards you. This is a universal law of affinity.ie.*likes* attracts *likes*.
Simply love more and complain less.
Life is to enjoy.
Relax, and be yourself. You need no change at all.