My son found a picture of him with a prostitute... She looked like she was on drugs.. I don't want to be with him or have him in my house.. He always puts me down no matter what... I want to make some flyers with this picture and post them in the area that he frequents...He was so abusive to me when we were together..He never pays child suppurt.. since he has been here he hasn't even helped out with the bills... I want some sweet revenge... god please forgive me for wanting to have a little payback..
2006-07-07 18:57:51 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to let those who think that I give him attention or sex... no I don't!! not in nine years.. I gave up on the child support issue years ago.. I am not "white trailor trash" I work my *** off for a living and pay for my 2 sons on my own.. they live quit well under my care..my youngest went to state wrestling championships last year.. dad never showed up at any of the tournaments.. by the way ilaughatu he is latino... not white.. I live in the suburbs not a trailer park... "smile"
2006-07-07 19:32:44 · update #1
I don't care about the child support anymore.. I support my sons on my own and they know that now..I almost died and that's why he moved in.. he just doesn't understand that the damage is done and I don't want any kind of partnership with him..I moved on years ago.. But, I feel sorry for his *** because he is the father of my sons..
2006-07-07 19:46:23 · update #2
ohh.. by the way my screen name is johndeere because I= used to work for them till they shut down.. I really miss my buddies there... and wldflwr because I love flowers and I have my own garden that I really enjoy (so do my boys).. just to let you know.. So, don't judge a book by it's cover.. cause chances are you will be wrong...
2006-07-07 19:50:51 · update #3
He's your EX-HUSBAND. You both are divorced. There's no reason getting yourself in a mess, now is there? I can understand if you two are still married, but seeing that he's your ex, what's the point?
2006-07-07 19:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by tingaling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 06:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention you have moved on in the 9 yrs, so what happened that you had NO ONE ELSE TO TURN TO, WHEN YOU HAD TO BE IN THE HOSPITAL?
If the guy has not been around in all this time, then I don't see how you could use the reasoning that, he's the kid's dad, and he would be best to be with them? That makes no sense whatsoever.
You are not going to like this at all, but you need to look in the mirror and blame YOU, NOT HIM.
Revenge, for what? Being the very person whom you divorced 9 years ago? For being the "deadbeat dad", you know he is? For not being a "father"? What???
You are also cheating your own kids... He SHOULD BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT REGARDLESS... If you don't need the money, *^%^( fine, you could set up a trust for their college, braces, first car, something for their future, hell, an insurance policy that they could gain interest on and use to buy their first home when they get married, or? Christ, woman..
Your the one who needs to get it together and get this LOUSE out of your lives.
It is admirable that you are self sufficient, that you can stand on your own. S*&t, I think it is awesome, personally, but you need to really think about this...
Life has a way of working out and the "revenge" is nothing more than your way of keeping him around. Wether or not it's love, hate, compassion, whatever you want to call it, this "revenge" you speak of just keeps the wheel greased. Keeps the cycle of "crap" moving freely, gives you something to feed on.
LET IT GO, LET HIM GO, AND REALLY, REALLY MOVE ON...
Your kid's deserve so much better than this, and I think you do as well.
If he won't be a "man and a father", that doesn't mean you have to keep trying to change it. You want to be better than that, I would hope and from what you write, I think you are.
Let life be your payback. Your kids wont be kids forever, your ex wont be young forever, nor will you. Someday, sometime, he will pay for his irresponsibility, you don't want to pay with him I am sure.
2006-07-08 18:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously want him in your life, or you would have already taken steps for him to be out of your life.
Too often when people get "divorced," they still continue to do things that will keep the other person in their life forever.
If you are wanting this person really gone from your life, then call the police, get a restraining order, and stop trying to keep him in your life.
Revenge is a lazy form of grief. If you are still grieving over your marriage, divorce, just do what you need to do to grieve and move on. Keeping an Ex-husband around by your own design is like trying to keep the dead in a spare bedroom. It just stinks and it will be unhealthy for your life.
2006-07-09 01:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in the same situation, I'd feel the same way. Knowing my personality I would take the chance to do it, especially if I had the picture! The sad thing about revenge is that a lot of times it dosen't ever make you feel better. Like, no matter what you do it dosen't make the hurt and anger go away.
2006-07-07 19:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by bookworm1885 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 01:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...your screen name is John Deere...I'm supposing your lower middle-class white...what I would do is...Stop asking for handouts from this man because he'd rather pay a hooker than pay you child support...Get an order from the court and let the judicial system deal with getting your child support. Stop having sex with him when your lonely..yes you do!!!! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and change your phone number, get a restraining order and take care of your child...stop thinking of stupid mind games to play because all its going to do is end up getting your *** kicked by him and he'll go to jail for a week and end up right back in your apartment...I know this is a cycle for you!!! And its not the first man in your life to treat you like shtttt...right. So the best revenge is to leave him alone...ignore him and concentrate on yourself and your child...leave white trash men alone...
p.s. Plant drugs in his pocket and call the police..they'll pick him up and realize he has back child support...he will do jail time..
2006-07-07 19:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by ILAUGHATU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a funny idea, for sure. On the other hand, it's probably not in your best interest to publish it just now. You've got more important things to do, like getting the child support order enforced and getting him out of your house.
If you can provide info on where he works and banks, that may make it easier for the court to get the money he owes you.
2006-07-07 19:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by weebl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good self BIO, of how good you are. You failed to mention during all this horn tooting, how ignorant you are for even letting this happen. Let alone, how you still let it go on.
Revenge?. You sound like a real loving person. I bet guys are lined up down the street, waiting to marry you. Right?
God forgive you? How can God forgive a person that is not one of His?
Good Luck. You need it.
2006-07-07 20:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is your ex, why are you still stressing him? Get him the hell outta your house...the law is on your side, and just be done with him. The family court judge will be intereste din the pic, but I don't think it's in your best interest to start plastering things like this around town. It will make you look immature.
2006-07-07 19:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never the answer and certainly never sweet. Think of your children. Will humiliting their father make you are better person? Or would seeing to their well-being be the best option here? Hasn't Dad done more than enough to himself?
2006-07-07 19:52:36 · answer #11 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋