My girlfriend is 16 am 18 shes 4 mounths pregnant i am really trying to find out what are my rights when born?

Question

My girlfriend is 16 fixen to be 17 I am 18 we live in tennessee we are trying to find out are rights im wanting to know all kinds of things such as can her parents keep me from my child or can they keep my name off the birth certificate since she is a minor and what we are really trying to figure out is when the baby is born if they try to put it up for adoption, do I have to sign something before they can do that and also if anybody knows the abortion laws in tennessee because we want to have the baby not abort or put it up fpr adoption. We want to know how long will they not do an abortion shes 14 weeks and we are waiting as long as we can to tell her parents till we know and so she cant have an abortion. We are in a big scarry confusing situation if anybody can help us let me know.
Thanks

Answer 1

please go the state rules website and find out. it differs from state to state.

Answer 2

Her parents can't make her do anything. It's her decision to have the child, abort it, place it up for adoption. As far as the birth certificate, I hope you put your name on the birth certificate. Her parents can't press charges against you. Yea she may be a minor, but there's only 2 years between you. There would have to be at least a 4 year age difference before her parents could press charges. If it makes you feel any better, I was 17 when I got pregnant. My fiance was 20.No charges were ever pressed against him. Not only because my parents didn't want to, but also because there was such a small age difference between us. I was 18 when I had our daughter. Don't be too stressed out about this. Remember your girlfriend is the one that's pregnant, she's going to be going through a hard time. Not only does she have to worry about her parents, she is also carrying a child. Your child. I wouldn't worry about her parents though. Right now be worried about your girlfriend. Has she seen a doctor? I'm hoping she has since you know exactly how many weeks she is. Make sure
she gets the medical attention she needs throughout her pregnancy. If you don't have a job, now's the time to get one because babies are NOT cheap. Good luck and congratulations

Answer 3

Well one of my friends had this problem, if you get along with her parents it shouldn't be all that bad. Her parents really have no say over wether or not the baby gets your last name, it's up to your girlfriend and you. The unfortunate thing about you being 18 and her 16 and the fact that you are not married is you will most likely have to pay child support, even if you are still a couple. Her parents cannot keep you from the birth certificate either. I don't blame you, you may be young and may not be completely ready to have a child, but sometimes it makes peoples life better.

The hospital will do a paternity test, obviously since you are the father, yes, you would have to sign something in order for her or her parents to do anything with the child.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

We'll I live in Ohio. But typically as long as she is over the age of 15 the choice is hers. Wether to have the baby or not as well as to allow you to see the baby. As for the birth certificate: you will need to sign an affidaved of paternaty to allow you name it be on it as the father, that means you know by a shadow of a doubt that the baby is yours and you don't want a paternaty test. KNOW FOR SURE!!!!!!! Abortion can be a sticky situation, typically the second trimester (3-6 months) is too late for an abortion unless life threatening.
Anyways- you both are old enough to make your own decisions and hopefully the best decisions for the baby. So it's pretty much up to you unless her parents want to take it to court. And that would be stupid since she's almost of age.
Just make sure you do whats best for all of your futures. And make sure she stays in school, it's more important than she'll know.

Hope it helps! Good luck with the little one : )

Answer 5

Laws very from state to state on statutory rape. If she is 4 months she needs to see a dr. Your child can not be put up for adoption with both parents consenting. I think that they best thing is to plan how you are going to support your child and your girlfriend, how you guys plan to take care of a child after the birth. As a mother I think that you should sit down with her parents and your parents and see what is best for everyone. Having children will change you life forever. Remember that a childs life is in your hands now. Only you guys can make the best decision for all involved, but listen to her parents they may be more understanding then you think. Good luck.

Answer 6

Every single state has different ages that govern, "the age of consent". In the majority, most are 16 and that usually governs sexual activity, but as a general rule of thumb, only if both are under 18. As to the birth certificate, if you claim parentage, then you can sign the birth certificate, or not. No one can alter that without a court order, which in it's majority won't get approved. Hell, a judge probably won't even hear that part of the case.
As to abortion/no abortion, that is governed by individual state laws. For example, in Nevada the age of consent is 16, but a pregnant minor can't have an abortion without parental consent. Not so much an "abortion" thing as a "in case something goes wrong" premise.
Look you two are WAY to young and inexperienced to handle this on your own. There is so much you have to be ready for in raising a child, it is not "a walk in the park". Food, clothes, housing, utilities, insurance (babies need medical care), transportation, and just 'stuff', costs money, and unless you have a "silver spoon' 18 year old kids with just a HS (hopefully) diploma don't have much chance of making much at the few jobs available for low skilled, under educated workers.
The day's are gone where parents can force a minor to give a child up for adoption, again without a court order, and then it is very, very slim. They can however, have your local social services agency take over for the baby's welfare, meaning they would pay regular visits to the home, ensuring that the baby is being cared for correctly. That is not a bad thing really, but you have to really tow the line, should your state have this parental option.
Heres something else you need to think about: the cost incurred to have this child. Are the parent's insurance going to pay for this expense? Yours? Hers? The state?
I know of a case where the minor parents sued the father for the cost of the hospital bill that was NOT COVERED by insurance. He lost...
It was viewed as child support..
If the parents pursue legal action it could be for statuatory rape, however, you need to realize that as a minor, her admonishment of "I agreed" may be non-exsistant under the "reasonable question of knowledge to give consent".
When the two of you became involved, is this what you wanted for your future, or hers? To be teenage parents, without any clue on what size and magnitude this is going to be for the rest of your lives? Being a parent is LIFELONG. It does not end at 18, just look at your own parents. NOW IS THE TIME TO THINK...

There is an old saying, "Be careful what you wish for, you just may get it"
Go to both your parents NOW, BEFORE ALL OPTIONS ARE LIMITED. Both of you obviously believe you were adults and old enough to make a baby, so what keeps you from facing parents? Don't say it is because we don't know our options. That's a teenage cop-out and you know it. If you are going to be parents, then you have to stand up and face whatever you need to face with integrity and accountability. Play time is over, finished, done.
This does not necessiarily involve abortion, or adoption, or keeping the child, but with so much emotional involvement that this situation will bring, it is sometimes very difficult to make sound, rational, and reasonable decisions.
On a final note, if you don't have the knowledge about this stuff, if you are not prepared to deal with this stuff, if you can not emotionally, or physically support this kind of stuff, 'KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS!!

Answer 7

You know, you are in an illegal position. In most states, you are in violation of the Statutatory rape. The bare minimum, IF HER PARENTS telephone the police (yes, thats all it takes) is about a year in a Federal Pennitentary, and a Judical command for you to list yourself as a child sex predator.. Oh, and another thing, this is a Felony, class 3 in most states. This will follow you for ever. Right now, you have no rights to the baby if her parents deem you unworthy. OH, dont take anyones LEGAL advice on this forum,, better to be safe then sorry(Speak to a lawyer),, MOST states dont give a **** about how many years apart you are, and that now, in about half of all states,, its not called statuatory rape, but CHILD RAPE. i would talk to a lawyer,,, better to be safe,, then to spend fifty days in jail,,, without posting bail, and waiting for a trial.. ive read a lot of these answers, and did some research myself.. It is ultimately up to the parents (YES this is legal) if she keeps the baby or not) and they CAN press charges, in which case within a week or two,, a warrant will be out for your arrest, and you will be booked (when you get booked, this is part of your permanant record) The parents dont have to press charges, if the police gets wind of it either way, they have the ultimate authority to press charges themselfes, with or without the parents discretion.

soo if there are anymore Bullshit answers out there, which ive read all of them for your question,, and most of the are bullshit,, tell them to freakin research it first, and to look at the laws first.

my brother was in the same position you were in, trust me,, your in a world of hurt. stay low, and hope for the best.

Answer 8

you have the same rights as the mother has whether you were screwin a minor or not. if they give make her give the child up for adoption you have the right to adopt the child. For the simple fact that you are the father...if you are the father. and they can't do and abortion becauseshe is well into her second trimester. i say you just be patient you really have nothin to worry about as long as you are indeed the childs father...

Answer 9

listen the doctors cant say anything about u being 18 years old the mom can put u in jail for having sex with her 16 year old daughter but u have all right to ur child if u and ur gf would like to put the baby up for adoption u and ur gf have to sigh a paper willing to give up all rights to ur child hope this helps

Answer 10

Her parents CANNOT put YOUR baby up for adoption. It is up to you and your g/f. She also cannot put the baby up for adoption without your permission. Also your math is off. If she is 14 weeks she is not 4 months along. She is 3 months 2 weeks. 16 weeks is 4 months. I am 16 weeks along.

Answer 11

i worked for a law firm that worked in tenn. really its gona be hard for them to mess with u. its ur gf's body not her parents. she can get an abortion without her parents enen knowing so im shure they cant forse her to muder ur child. dont worry about her parents that much. parents cant do that much. they couldnt stop your 2 from inserting so how are they gona control you now. they cant take the kid shes gona be 17 ur 18. just make shure she never screams rape. stupid grandparents rights are abolished in ur state. if u need any help i know good laywers email me at [e-mail]. good luck and dont worry do much. just learn to use condoms and not blow them big wads like that dude.