Friends don't let friends drive drunk. So what if your friend goes out, and gets drunk all of the time because your friend knows that you'll always be there to go and pick them up to give them a ride home at two in the morning? At which point do you draw the line?
2006-07-07 18:24:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
XXXXXXXXXXXXXX You've got to show some tough love. You're friend has no respect for him/her self, howe can he/she show respect for you. You are not being a friend by continuing to cater to his proble. Instead of taking him home. Take him to an AA meeting. There are some 24 hours. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-07 18:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, he/she is probably an alcoholic. And friends don't let friends drive drunk. This HOWEVER does not mean that your friend is your responsibility 24/7. If your life is being disrupted to bail him/her out, it's gone too far. Draw the line. I understand this is tough because you don't want to see something happen, but you cannot babysit this person forever. Tell him/her you are concerned but that you cannot be at his/her disposal to always provide rides anymore. Somewhere along the line you have probably become an enabler, that's not helping. I know from experience that people have to hit their own bottom to get help and it may be time you allow this to happen to your friend. Good luck. God Bless.
2006-07-08 01:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them into some help. What ever you do, please do not let them drive. I know it has to be a major inconvenience, but think about the life you are saving from a terrible accident. Try some type of an education program to get him to realize what he is doing. Worst case scenario, and some people here will hate me for this, but if nothing works, tell him know and let the police know about him so they can stop him before he hurts himself or others. Yes, he may find out what you did, hate you and choose to not be friends, but it that happens, so be it. You did your part and saved an innocent life. Good luck and be strong.
2006-07-08 01:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by driver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must draw the line now. Organize an intervention with his family and friends. They should be more than glad to do it. Contact someone from a local rehab unit to get all the information you need. If you are truly his friend, you will do this.
2006-07-08 01:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by drummer4justus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steal his wallet when he is drunk and buy some CDs or something. Then either he won't have money to get drunk anymore or will drink less so he doesn't get drunk.
A win-win for everyone!
P.S. How about bring a blanket and pillow and sleep it off in your car if you get drunk at a bar?
2006-07-08 01:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're being used, it may be time to draw the line. Once or twice would be acceptable, but it sounds like you're being used as their personal taxi service.
Bottom line... if they can afford to get drunk - they can afford a cab ride home.
2006-07-08 01:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by toohairy4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to pick your friend up at 2 am, you are enabling them to continue down their self-destructive path. As difficult and painful it may be to do so, you must distance yourself from this person. You tell them that you cannot and will not continue to watch while they slowly destroy their life a piece at a time. No one can help this person or make them change their behavior. Real, positive, lasting change has to come from within.
2006-07-08 02:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive him to a rehab center. You know that you are enabling him and that is a difficult question. Tell him that you can no longer be his friend because you are tired of a one sided friendship and you don't want to watch him become an alcoholic bum. Then refuse to answer your phone when it rings at 2AM.
2006-07-08 01:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a lousy situation. I'd start taking his keys, but not driving him home. you could also call the cops on him anonymously to wake him up a bit to his problem. that may be too hard for you to do.if he doesnt see the problem himself, its time for an intervention and rehab.
good luck, it sounds like he has a good friend
2006-07-08 11:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by nmahlburg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when this friend is sleeping call them and ask them for a ride repeatedly... until they get the point... if you were to chose tuff love.. and this friend was to kill someone or themsleves you might have to live with some guilt... try to teach this friend the error of their ways... not tell them...
2006-07-11 07:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by krisidious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋