I used to be very outgoing but something happened to me?

Question

Ok I used to be very outgoing guy, didnt had care in the in the world,I was always a life of the party. I knew half of the city where I live(and l live in big city) lol. Any where I went people knew me and I had tons of friends. Than I started started stay home a little more.More and more with each day. I started worrying about thinks that make no sense, I see no fun in doing anything. I think people always judge me, I was never felt like that. I stopped competely going out. I dont many people anymore. When ever I go out (which is very ralely)I feel very tense,insecure,worrying that people looking at me and thinking whats wrong with him, my face gets red,my heart starts to beat really fast ,get really hard chest ,sore throat. How can I get back to feeling normal and meet people like I used and stop worrying so much and get depressed.
Any info appreciated.

Answer 1

you need to see a doctor sounds like you might be having panic attacks........Panic attacks are associated with physical symptoms that include the following:

Shaking
Feeling that your heart is pounding or racing
Sweating
Chest pain
Shortness of breath
Feeling that you are choking
Nausea
Cramping
Dizziness
Out-of-body feeling
Tingling or numb feeling in your hands
Chills or hot flashes
A person may also have an extreme fear of losing control, going crazy or dying during a panic attack. It is very rare for a person to have all of these symptoms at once. However, the presence of at least 4 symptoms strongly suggests that a person has panic disorder.

Many of the symptoms that occur during a panic attack are the same as the symptoms of diseases of the heart, lungs, intestines or nervous system. The similarities between panic disorder and other diseases may add to the person's fear and anxiety during and after a panic attack.


Just the fear of having a panic attack is often enough to trigger the symptoms. This is the basis for a condition called agoraphobia. A person who has agoraphobia finds it difficult to leave home (or another safe area) because he or she is afraid of having a panic attack in public or not having an easy way to escape if the symptoms start.

Many people who have panic attacks don't seek medical care because of embarrassment or the fear of taking medicine. If you have panic attacks, it is very important to seek medical care and discuss your problem with your doctor. After you have been evaluated thoroughly, your doctor will be able to tell you if your panic attacks are related to panic disorder or are caused by another problem. Simple treatments are available to help control panic disorder.

Several medicines can make panic attacks less severe or stop them altogether.


Paroxetine (brand name: Paxil) and sertraline (brand name: Zoloft) are antidepressant medicines that have been approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to treat panic disorder. Antidepressants are very effective in preventing anxiety and panic attacks. Often they completely stop the attacks. You don't have to be depressed for them to help. Side effects are usually mild. Antidepressants will not make you lose control or change your personality. These medicines can be used for as long as necessary, even for years.


Alprazolam (brand name: Xanax) and clonazepam (brand name: Klonopin) are also medicines approved by the FDA to treat panic disorder. These medicines give relief from fear and anxiety. They should be used only for a short period of time (a few weeks to a few months), unless you absolutely can't function without them. Never suddenly stop taking one of these medicines. If you need to stop, these medicines should be slowly tapered off over several weeks under your doctor's supervision.

Answer 2

You may have any number of combinations of depression/anxietyagoraphobia/panic attacks. It sound more like panic attacks and this could be turning you into an agoraphobic (fear of open places and people/crowds). Seek help. Counseling and meds are out there for you. If you can't afford a counselor right now, get yourself a confidant...someone you can trust and talk to. Although these things can "just happen", due to chemical imbalance,etc., they normally get started with some trauma or trust issue in your life. Find a good friend and share what's in your heart that might be bothering you.

Answer 3

You may be getting slightly depressed. It sounds like the beginning stages of depression for most cases. You also may be developing some anxiety, which explains your insecure feelings.

It's common, but you need to deal with it the way that feels most comfortable. Drugs, natural drugs, therapy? Calm yourself down with breathing activities or other things that relieve stress.

Answer 4

I know the feeling. Sounds like social anxiety. Has anything major happened in your life such as a breakup or something, or has something else occured that may have affected your confidence?

Answer 5

You know I feel the same as you do right now.... so whenever i go out i just try to stay calm and just stay in the company of people who make me laugh...trust me it helps alot cuz it helps you get your mind off those other things and it helps you enjoy your time....

Answer 6

It sounds like you may have social phobia which is what my husband has. You should talk to your doctor about how you are feeling and see if your doctor will refer you to your local Mental Health where you can talk to a counselor.

Good Luck :) you can get thru this!!

Answer 7

you are having panic attacks go to a doctor, hopefully you can get some sort of therapy for this, it took my daughter 2 yrs to get over hers after she was in a car accident. dont wait any longer, its something that can be helped.

Answer 8

Before you go out meditate, or drink some happy tea(Tea with Ganja) it will loosen you right up, worked for me when I had this same problem.

Answer 9

Don't stress no ones judging you people are too busy in their own lives! just forget about everyone else and live! ^_^

Answer 10

I was having close to the same problems as you, but mine changed due to my hysterectomy, Go to a DR. there is medicne to help you with that it is called ANXIETY ATTACKS or PANIC DISORDERS. Thanks to my dr. i had those problems fixed but I am still working on one more..great luck.......