i have been betrayed before from my husband. he has apologized and blah,blah,blah. i have told him i forgive him, but in the back of my mind, there's always something reminding me that he betrayed my trust. i have gotten to the point where if he is now cheating, i don't care. what does that mean? it's over? when i don't seem to shed tears for him anymore?
2006-07-07 18:23:43 · 24 answers · asked by C C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get out now...or...join him and get some of your own...
2006-07-07 18:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been betrayed before from my husband. he has apologized and blah,blah,blah. i have told him i forgive him, but in the back of my mind, there's always something reminding me that he betrayed my trust. i have gotten to the point where if he is now cheating, i don't care. what does that mean? it's over? when i don't seem to shed tears for him anymore?
YOU have to ask this? What does it mean? Is it over? lmao
nah. actually, your in the height of the ultimate love. He is about to reward you with an abundance of wealth and endless sex with a man of your choice.
gezzzzzz. How old are you?
2006-07-07 19:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't care, then you must have lost your feeling for him after all that he's done. There is only so much that we can take before we either wake up or lose feelings. What sucks is it will always be in the back of your mind what he has done in the past so you will not be able to trust him fully ever again. I would really think it over...how did you feel when it happened before compared to how you would feel if it happened now? That will show you how your feelings have changed and if you want to stay in this relationship. Good luck!
2006-07-07 18:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by delfin716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stay with him? He's cheated and destroyed your trust and maybe by saying you don't care
if he's now cheating, you are looking for a way out. It takes alot out of a person when they have been cheated on and the hurt and anger you feel probably replaced the love in your heart for him. Good luck
2006-07-07 18:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by frustrated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, yes its over and it's time to move on. Once the trust and respect are gone there is usually no hope of getting it back. Good luck, and find happiness again.
2006-07-07 18:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but it sounds as if you dont respect yourself. You do not have to sit idly by. Take action.
If he is commiting adultery, DO SOMETHING! either confront and deal (leave or stay) or choose to live in a marriage where you are not valued. But take responsibility and act!Doing nothing is still a choice/action! You do have power! Dont just feel nothing! Life is to be felt.
Best of luck to you!
2006-07-08 09:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have fallen out of love with him. I believe that marriage is a commitment and you should sit down and discuss your feelings with and if you are both willing I say get some counseling.
2006-07-07 18:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just not being honest with yourself. you want the fairy tale ending and you aren't getting it. you probably need to seek some paid professional counseling. i have been to paid counselors and pastors. pastors just take a WAG (wild a*s guess) at it, counselors actually back it up with something.
i think many of us are rudderless in our marriages and want to have something to believe in but are let down by the less than perfect spouse.
2006-07-07 18:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the words of my wife "i just don't love you anymore or care if you find someone else." that's all it is. you have been hurt and no longer trust him. without trust you can't love someone. if your relation is like mine, you 2 are only together now out of habit. you 2 have just grown use to being together so don't plan to split up and are so use to it that you don't want to split up. no one really want to change their life stile so they tend to stay in the situation they are in so to not shake things up. i'm willing to bet that you hope he leaves you.
2006-07-07 18:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by cesar g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i always say when a man have you crying you love him when the tears stop its over you need to move on to better things you dont deserve to be in a marriage when its gone
2006-07-07 18:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that it's over. Pick yourself up and get out. It's not too late to find happiness with someone else.
2006-07-07 18:30:40 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋