My step dad doesn't make much money and it stresses out my mom. One day my step dad couldn't take my mom's complaining anymore and he threw a fit and threw/broke things. My step dad is angry, my mom's sad, my baby sister is crying, and I feel hurt. He started talking about getting a divorce with my mom. I don't know what to do!
2006-07-07 18:19:38 · 10 answers · asked by dazyduck96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mom makes most of the money.
2006-07-07 18:26:38 · update #1
Oh honey.... *big sympathetic hug* You need to find someone outside your immediate family who you can trust and talk to him/her. There might not be much you can do, but keeping it inside and letting it eat at you isn't going to make anything better.
2006-07-07 18:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you can not control adults and the way they act. But just be supportive of your Mom, and if she is already making most of the money and taking care of the bills the best she can, then him not being there could be a good thing and you might find you Mom to be alot happier. Because I know how it is to be the Mom and there are probably alot of things that you have no idea about, the fact that he gets angry enough to throw and break things, chances are he has been that angry at just your Mom before. And there is no sense in the fact that your Mom is being the man in the family already and yes I am sure that she nags sometimes, but maybe that is because she is married to an abusive, lazy man. Just let your Mom know that you love her.
2006-07-08 01:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things can get stressful when money is tight. Your mom has a right to be worried and your step dad probably feels bad when your mom gets upset. These feelings are normal. You should talk to your mom and step dad about how it makes you feel when they act angry and sad about these things. While it may be nice to have money, it's way more important to have family. Hopefully when you talk to your parents, they will talk to each other and handle things better. I wish you all the best.
2006-07-08 01:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost keep keep your self intact. Don't lose control of your self and also don't be a scatter brain. Sit with your mom first and ask her what's the prb is. why did she left you real dad, and now why can't she try and adjust with your step dad, also try out some budget scheme for your household. ask her to look around and see how many people don't have what you all are having. After knowing your mom prbs, sit with your step dad and tell him this is what mom is feeling, or this is what is her prb is. Reqest him to understand and also to adjust to few things so that your family will atleast stay intact and survive through this storm that is raging and also trying to uproot your family, say to him all this things and see what is reaction.
And if your mom is having some notion that she will get to spend all the money while your step dad slogs for it ask her to change her way of thinking. Tell her to take up a decent job so that she can afford her extra curricular expenses and also don't have to forego without it, which in turn bring her some sanity and peace.
I always believe that if we have faith in ourself we will outcome each and every prb in our life.
GOD BLESS YOU !!!!!!!
2006-07-08 01:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by navyapatel77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try taking to your mom. i don't know their whole situation, so it's hard to say what's going on and what's best. assuming that they aren't struggling to keep food on the table or keep the cable turned on, i don't really see the problem. as long as he's working at least 40 hours a week. I'm sure he doesn't want to hear your mom's crap all the time about how she make more money than he does. if they are struggling, he needs to think about what's better for the whole family and get a better job if necessary.
2006-07-08 01:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll since it seems like you the only one who hasnt completely lost it..you should really start by talking to your step-dad and just let him know that even know you guys are having financial difficulties
show him that everything is going to be alright because you and the rest of the family is there to suppost him no matter what!!
2006-07-08 01:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by sexii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok mariah! its me jacara just letting u know that theres nothing u can do about it
just let your parents figure it out themselves
an idea would 2 suggest things that u have done together and had a great time!
thats what i do when my parents do that!!!
good luck
2006-07-08 21:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by foxxigirrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to appreciate what she has and the fact that her husband is working and hey if she wants more money then she needs to go to work...
2006-07-08 01:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to comfort your baby sister & let the adults work things out for themselves :)
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2006-07-08 01:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by ?? misty ?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends or Clergy. They can help
2006-07-08 01:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by bigmonky2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋