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why bother living if there is no love in your life and all you do is work and pay the bills? and nothing more? there is no one that wants to love me or be with me?
so if all there is left to do after the age of 40yr, why live anymore? what is the point? there is no love?

2006-07-07 18:18:43 · 42 answers · asked by cats3inhouse 5 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

i am married--16YR, AND HE DONT LOVE ME,
I DO LOVE MYSELF!!!!
CANT VOLUNTEER BECAUSE HUSBAND WANTS HIS DINNER AND CLOTHES WASHED.
I WORK 40HR/WEEKLY
JUST BOUGHT FIRST HOME, CANT TRAVEL.
NO HEALTH INSURANCE OF ANY KIND--CANT AFFORD IT TAKEN OUT OF PAYCHECK, JUST ENOUGH TO PAY BILLS AND STAY ALIVE.!!!!
AND KEEP CATS AND THE TEENAGER, I HAVE FED AND HEALTHY.
THE GOD, THING--- I HAVE GOD IN MY OWN HOME, DONT NEED TO DRESS UP AND PRETEND AT A CHURCH LIKE ALL MY FAMILY DOES.

2006-07-07 18:47:30 · update #1

I KNOW 2 OF MY CLASSMATES FROM SCHOOL, KILLED THEMSELVES
SO IF THEY COULD THEN WHATS SO WRONG WITH IT???
HUSBAND DONT WANT ME AROUND, THE CATS WOULD BE FINE WITH MY 16YR, AND SOON SHE WILL BE IN COLLEGE, ANYWAY.
AND WILL HAVE HER OWN LIFE.
TIRED OF HAVING SEX BY MYSELF!!!
AND BEING THE ONLY ONE HERE, WORRYING ABOUT THE NEXT PAYDAY, AND WORKING BUTT OFF TO GET YELLED AT WORK AND BY HUSBAND!!!

2006-07-07 18:57:09 · update #2

42 answers

OMG, you're in your prime! If you dont like the life you're leading,
CHANGE IT! That's simply NO reason to end it! :)

2006-07-07 18:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2 2

FIRST YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF!!! YOU DONT LOVE YOURSELF OR YOU WOULD NOT BE ASKING THIS QUESTION!!!! IF YOU DONT LOVE YOURSELF THEN HOW CAN ANYONE ELSE!!! I AM ALMOST 40 I AM ALONE WITH 4 KIDS!!! GRANTED 2 OF THEM ARE GROWN BUT DAILLY I HEAR OF MARITAL PROBLEMS AND MY SECOND TO THE OLDEST IS ONLY 7 MONTHS INTO RECOVERY OVER CRACK!! I HAVE A 10 YEAR OLD THAT WAS MOLESTED BY HER STEP BROTHER THROUGH HER FATHERS NEW MARRIAGE AND A 16 MONTH OLD WHO IS TEETHING!!! LIFE SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND I SUFFER FROM CHRONIC DEPRESION!!! I TELL YOU WHAT SOMMEDAYS I DONT WANT TO GET OUT OF BED BUT I DO IT ANY WAYS!! I THANK GOD FOR THE THINGS THAT I DO HAVE MY HEALTH ( WHICH IS NOT THE BEST) IT COULD BE WORST!! THAT I HAVE 4 BEAUTIFUL KIDS THOUGH SOMEDAYS I WAN TTO KILL THEM!!! THAT I HAVE A ROOF OVER MAY HEAD AT LEAST FOR TODAY WHO KNOW ABOUT TOMARROW, THAT TODAY I GOT TO EAT A OKAY MEAL TOMARROW THERE MAY NOT BE ONE AND THAT I WOKE UP THIS MORNING TO SEE THE SUN SHINE AND ALL THE CRAPPY THINGS THAT HAPPENED AT LEAST I WOKE UP!! I ONCE THOUGHT THE WORLD WOULD BE BETTER IF I NEVER EXITED. THEN MY TEN YEAR OLD WAS MOLESTED AND IF I HAD DIED WHEN I WANTED TOO, SHE WOULD STILL BE GETTING HURT. JUST BY ME BEING ALIVE I STOPPED THE CYCLE OF LIFE THAT WAS SET IN MOTION FOR HER. YOU MAY NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR HERE FOR BUT I KNOW YOU ARE HERE FOR A RESON!! LIFE IS NOT SO BAD ALONE YOU CAN COME AND GO AS YOU PLEASE NO ONE ASKS YOU WHERE YOU BEEN OR WHERE YOUR GOING AND NO ONE KEEPS TRACK OF WHAT YOU SPEND YOUR MONEY ON!! RELAX AND WATCH A MOVIE AND LEARN TO ENJOY THE COMPANY OF YOU!!! YOU WERE MEANT OT BE HERE EVEN IF YOU DONT SEE IT YET!!!

2006-07-07 18:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by snhtg 2 · 0 0

You can find love after 40. But love isn't all life is about. Be a mentor, find joy in watching a young person grow and mature...develop a hobby or volunteer in a way that contributes to the community. I think the key is to seek self-actualization (see Maslow). To find your true calling and your contribution. Seek personal fulfillment. I don't think you must have love for that...but if you have no one else, why be in the rat race to pay your own bills? Sell everything, travel...seek new experiences...you have nothing to lose! Be great!

2006-07-07 18:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You better start loving yourself cause you don't have, pretty much, what everyone else don't have. Hell, some people end up killing each other.

But if you want love, you can get an animal; in some ways it's even better.

Seriously, make your own life. There are plenty of reasons to live for. I'll name just one, you can still have a bit O. That's what you want anyway.

2006-07-07 18:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0 0

There are always new things to do and learn.
We are meant to procreate the species.
When we pass prime age for reproduction we can wander off to die alone in the forest or do things to help others live a better life.

If you don't have friends or family try some new places.
Maybe volenteer to help somewhere, you will meet truely good people and feel productive by helping others.

Oh yeah, again.......lose that worthless attitude and look at your good points.

2006-07-07 18:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by astroservus 3 · 0 0

There is love and there is more after 40. You've just been f@#ked and can't see it, feel it, or taste it. The reason to live is because s/he/they win if you don't. Get mad. Get angry. Get really pissed off about what lead to your current state instead of getting mad at yourself. And then, ride your anger while swallowing you misplaced pride, and reach out to the resources that are out there. At least give it a try. It's a path you can change. Not living, well, that's pretty damn final. It's also hurtful to the ones you don't want to hurt.

2006-07-07 18:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The funny thing about life is, you need to experience the bad to experience the good. And the only way you can feel bad at this point in your life, is because you know what it's like to feel good. Good things have happened to you in your life and more good things will come. You have to accept that life has to have up's and downs, Just hang in there, maybe try to make a lifestyle change, and things will get better.

2006-07-07 18:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 1 · 0 0

There's always a reason to live. Sounds llike you may need some counseling. Why not get on the phone tomorrow and make an appointment to talk to a psychologist? They can explain to you, better than anyone on here, why you should want to keep living. It sounds like you are in a major state of depression and they can help you!

2006-07-07 18:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0 0

Life is not all about love. There are many more things in my life atleast. And love has many forms. Whatever form of love you get is OK. Love is love. Look beyond love and you will see life gets really better as you age. Age is in your head not in your body. Wake up and smell the rosses. Cheers...
Life is too precious to waste on something you do not have. Cherish what you have. It seems all bookish but it is very true....

2006-07-07 18:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by torontofabsingle 2 · 0 0

You need to learn to love yourself- to be happy with YOU, and to know that you CAN be happy without "being with someone else". After all, your "happiness" should never be laid at the doorstep of another person- this is asking far too much from anyone. Your sense of happiness in life- with life, should come from within. And, it IS possible. Your first step in this direction is the hardest- you need to BELIEVE.
Look around you. Do you REALLY "see" what's around you? Do you ever just stop, look at the stars in the night sky- and realize how wonderous and beautiful they really are?
Do you have any children? Or a pet? Do you ever REALLY look into their eyes and KNOW just how lucky you really are to have them in your life?
Do you believe in a Creator? A Higher Power? Do you ever stop to wonder how much love it took for Him to give us this life that we have, and the world that we live in?
Do you stop to smell the roses as you walk by them, or stand still enough to hear the singing of birds or the rushing waters of a river? Do you feel the sun, shining on your face?
If not, DO. And you'll find MANY reasons to live. They are all around you. You are God's unique and loved Creation, and His gift to you IS this life- don't throw it away- or give up on it. Bad times come to everyone who lives, at one time or another, but one thing's for certain- they always WILL pass, and if you can believe that, and endure, you WILL live to see another happy day.
I send my love to you, and I will pray for you, in hope that you will take these words to heart, and for you to understand that you are NOT "alone". You are part of a much larger family than you may have realized up unto this point. It's called "humanity", and it's as full of grace and goodness as it is anything else. Please believe this.

2006-07-07 18:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0 0

You've got to make urself get out of this deep depression (don't take any meds to help it only makes u an addict)! Maybe getting out when you can is not enough make it like one ur weekly bills-go out once a wk. Make ur self up get some bks to help u-go to thirft stores-put some great outfits together. Once u make the first night out u'll branch out and slowly meet loads of friends. There is someone special for ya but right now don't worry about that you've got plans to make and ur Special.
Start Planning!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-07-07 18:31:08 · answer #11 · answered by lilAudrey 6 · 0 0

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