A friend's wife had a 10 year affair, with the help of the adult children this couple stayed together but have little touch or communication either generally or intimately do you think that they should stay together? This was 5 years ago....to me it appears that it is separate lives in the one house....cheaper than divorce.....this is a 37 year old marriage.
2006-07-07 18:17:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A ten year affair is a relationship. She was married to your friend, but in love with her lover. They will never have a normal relationship, becaause they didn't have one to begin with. She obviously never really loved him. It has been a 37 year waste of time for your friend. So sorry for him!!!!
2006-07-07 18:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that anything you manage to overcome as a couple makes a couple stronger. You made the best of a difficult situation and turned a sad event into an opportunity to strengthen your relationship and that's great. It seems you both learned a lot with the experience, especially the importance of communication, and are better partners now than you were before. I imagine your wife felt terrible about what she did, I know I would, and the way you dealt with what she did shows how much you care for her. I think you should use the opportunity of renewing your vows to move on, leave this affair in the past. You can start counting the time from your vows renewal as a new beginning really. This affair is in the past and it should not be the focus of or define your marriage. I'm sure you have many many other experiences and events together at this point that are more important and significant. Congratulations on the renewal of your vows.
2016-03-26 21:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably is easier financially to stay together, but what
has been lost with a ten year affair has nothing to do with
money. If they want to be miserable in a 37 year marriage and settle for less of a marriage so be it.
2006-07-07 18:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have stayed together this long and both know it. Stay together. Maybe later they will need the other for help. Better to be together then seperated. And much cheaper to live together.
2006-07-07 18:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this is all messed up.A lot of cheating going on. They just need to get a divorce and get it over with. Divorces are not that high!! That is no excuse to not get a divorce!!
2006-07-07 18:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they are old enough to make their own decisions its really not any ones business
2006-07-07 18:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me they were so used to each other that they accepted the relationship and went along with their lives if i cant make you happy be happy with somebody else true love
2006-07-07 18:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't interfere with your friend's marriage. Be there for them, and be supportive of their choices.
2006-07-07 18:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage? just on paper, thats all.
It's a shame neither one has any guts.
2006-07-07 19:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. Maybe they shouldn't be together.
2006-07-07 19:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sapphira♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋