Help me pls any adive. My guy n I met on-line..talked for 8mths IM texts n phone. We meet in person n he has sweeped me off my feet. My prob is that I know he loves me n i him..but the distance is kiilin me! I'm lonely n i know he is aswell..i'm begining 2 think he is fooling around. Am i crazy 2 commit myself..thinking he is involved with other women. Aswell i know he talks 2 alot on-line...i guess its a trust issue!! Think i have answered my own dang question LOL
2006-07-07 18:10:41 · 17 answers · asked by angelo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmm...
Don't worry, I'm in the same situation, but I've gotten over it. And yes, it really is a trust issue. Both of you are in love, and you need to ask yourself are you guys so much in a love not to go behind each other's back and lose that love?
Love is love. And it is not crazy to commit oneself to another over the distance. My love and I are 2500 miles apart, but we remain on the phone, and I can trust him with all my heart. Ironically, I'm talking with him and I practically do that everyday.
It's a matter of trust like you said, and it helps if you talk to him about stuff like that. I sure did and was relieved after some tears and all, but it was for the best in the end.
But despite all of that, good luck. ^_^
2006-07-07 18:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by endlessly_waiting_in_the_rain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to be really cliche about this but TRUST YOUR HEART. I married a man I met online within little time of knowing him, and without too much rational thought, we've been together for almost 5 years and no big conflicts or trust issues... I JUST KNEW he was someone I could completely trust and who was good for me. I'm glad I trusted my heart.
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Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love.
Although you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart!
I, like you, truly believe that love & relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people.
2006-07-08 01:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who have made it work, but there is no way for you to know whether you can trust him or not if you have always been long-distance.
Trust develops over time and it involves spending time with another person and observing their interactions with others, not just you.
Get off the computer and get involved in your community. Take a fun class or join a gym. Meet people in real-life. You'll find they can provide much more for you. Make some friends if you're lonely, don't lower your standards.
2006-07-08 01:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where u are coming from I'm in the same boat. Yes it is a big trust issue, But u will work things out if its love. Long distance is hard but so is all realtionships its just long distance take more work
2006-07-08 01:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by dreaming_of_u_16862002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should trust him. if u dont trust each other than there isnt much of a relationship. a relationship is built on trust and security. if u dont have either of those things, u dont really have a relationship. and next time, no offense, try to find someone closer to home. long distance relationships suck and the guy can sit there and say that he loves u and he could be cheating on u and lying about it. but that is not always the case.
2006-07-08 01:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by thumper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's a trust issue. I've been in a long distance relationship for 5 years. He is in school in New York, and we only see eachother on holidays and some weekends. Just be open and honest with him about your concerns and talk about it. :) It's good to get those things out instead of holding them in. He will appreciate your honesty.
2006-07-08 01:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by iheartjohnprose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be away from crazy guys. Have control on your mind. Bring in changes in your thinking, come out of the present situation.
2006-07-08 01:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by gnphyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u have answered ur own question. Dont worry if he loves as much as he says he does he isnt fooling around. And so what if he's online how bout u beeing online too, talking to him there is good too. Dont worry bout it. things will fine. :)
2006-07-08 01:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by lol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are "in love" BECAUSE of the distance. NO! Of course you should NOT commit to anything with this guy.
2006-07-08 01:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
intimate relationships that do not have sustained intimate (even holding hands) contact will fail eventually.
my wife has been gone for five months in Kuwait. we have been married for 14 years. we are having problems from the lack of personal contact.
2006-07-08 01:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋