When my husband and split up and he filed for divorce. he tired to take my two kids awy from when he had not called or even tried to see them in oever 8 months. i told him that if he would give me the kids i would not ask for anything (child or sposal support). He agreed then disagree and agreed and disagreed. I tried to talking to him many time and basically i was kissing his *** and he farted in my face. I told my lawyer to do what she had to do because i didnt want to lose my kids and stopped trying to work with him. when the court date came he did not even show and fired his lawyer the same day. I was awarded custody and child/sposal support temp. He was mad and said he woudl agree at the next court date that he would not fight for the kids if he did nto have to pay as much. When the time came he called into court and when the amounts were awrded he said nothing, but he called and yelled at me telling me i was several horrible things. Should I feel bad for him?
2006-07-07 17:58:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
things were bad between us and i asked to seperate for a while and then he went and filed
2006-07-07 18:10:19 · update #1
divorce is hard on everyone. the till death do us part dream is over. spouses deal with it in irrational ways sometimes. don't take more money than you need. you are going to get the kids unless you are unfit.
be as gracious as you can be, he used to be someone you loved a lot.
2006-07-07 18:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel bad at all! You need to realize that the children are not the issue that your EX is upset about its the fact that not only were you strong and able enough to survive and live without him but you were ready and willing to raise your children without any support emotional financial etc. from him which makes him realize that he wasn't going to get his way by scare tactics or temper tantrums and i would imagine that that your life was ruled by what he wanted and what he decided.He still feels that is the way that your family should live .now the tables have turned and your in charge and he cant change it no matter how hard he yells screams and stomps his feet like a toddler. enjoy your life and be happy that your children have the parent that truly cares for them and loves them. Hopefully your ex will change before his children grow up and realize what a selfish individual he is.
2006-07-07 18:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ewok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Victoria, i'm sorry to hearken to that there is slightly disrespect at your residence---yet a 33 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous will by no potential bypass out if mom is dottering and spoiling him---why might want to he bypass?? hardship is he will by no potential procedures to peacefully co-exist with a lady on a mature aspect...what a shame. you're also witnessing slightly crude disrespectful habit that comes from being family individuals and living at the same time multiple those years. To an interloper this all sounds poor--to you and your brother that is in ordinary words established living. So say no once you ought to--he received't explode or turn blue. loosen up, be cool, be awesome, and robust success-----SMILE
2016-11-06 01:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly don't think so. It's always a shame when a spouse appears to be using the kids as ping pong balls in an attempt to avoid paying child support. Based on your information, this does not appear to be the case. I think you did the right thing and he is mad because he did not get what he wanted....sour grapes!
2006-07-07 18:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by sfs_onfridays 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has shown you what a wimpy coward he is...picking on you because you're vulnerable, but when it came to the law and court he ran. Feel sorry for him? No. He'll find some other poor soul to pick on. Enjoy your children and your freedom. And I'm proud of you! If he tries to torment you again just remember that he's a wimpy coward and just smile at him....
2006-07-13 14:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by novalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's his fault if he really wanted to fight to his kids he would have showed up for the court date in the first place, he's just mad because he has to pay child support
2006-07-07 18:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, this is why we have a justice system. Also your children will need the money. The average support no where near meets the financial needs of most children.
2006-07-07 18:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you got rid of a real jerk. You have ever right to spousal support so take it. Reading between the lines, I think you probably earned every cent...... The kids need to live well and his money will help. Stop feeling bad.................
2006-07-07 18:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by salcon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should have shown up and pleded his side. He was not responsible enough to do that you can not wipe his *** forever. He is not your resonsibilty anymore. Take care of the kids forget about him.
2006-07-07 18:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel bad about his own stupidity. It seems as though he is into head games. It also seems as though you have been a vicitm of them for eay too long. Why would you consider his feelings for even one second. He isn't considering yours!!! Worry about your children and then remind yourself that he is your EX for a reason!!!
2006-07-07 18:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋