we often go clubbing and one friend in particular is very clingy to the point where a few months ago I overheard him saying nasty things about me to complete strangers because I had wondered away from him at a club.I havn't spoken to him since but now out of nowhere he has contacted me to go out with him tonight he really hurt me should i forgive and meet him tonite?
2006-07-07 17:45:56 · 25 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmm...well isnt he gay????? arent you married???? what are you looking for?
2006-07-07 17:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take him out for lunch or something - in other words, go somewhere where you can talk, not just the noisy and crazy atmosphere of a club - and tell him that you overheard what he said and want to talk about it. Maybe he was joking or you heard wrong or he's getting the wrong idea about your relationship, but whatever the cause, talking about it with him is definitely the way to fix the problem.
2006-07-08 00:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive him for sure. If he is a true friend I'm sure he already feels bad enough. Life is completely too short to lose a good friend. You know what they say about gay men. . . The more the merrier! lol Could you imagine life without him in your life? If not, then you know what to do already and don't need me.
2006-07-08 00:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, confront him on what he said that hurt your feelings and ask what made him decide that such things were alright to say aloud to complete strangers. I feel you won't have a good time with him involved until you resolve the tension between the two of you.
2006-07-08 00:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says nasty things about you, he is not your friend. But, maybe he was just out of his mind that night and deserves another chance. Explain to him why you have not been talking to him. Tell him you will try to be his friend but this ain't no ball game and he only gets one more strike.
Why aren't you sharing your life with your husband instead of a bunch of gay guys?
2006-07-08 00:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,this is normal for the gay crowd. They are a unique group.If you want to run with them,you will have to except there ways.Go on out with this friend.While your out talk about what you heard,that hurt your feeling's.They are a relay fun and happy ,sort of people to have as friend's.They will be your friend's for life.Be happy,have fun!
2006-07-08 00:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time he has done this to you? I have a problem with holding grudes and not forgiving people...I am working on this and it is a hard thing to do...and i am not sayin that is what you do...also, how much does this person mean to you? if they mean a lot to you, maybe you should forgive them and giv ethem another chance.
2006-07-08 00:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by mrsjatice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real queen. If he's usually a good friend or lots of fun then forgive him and go. If he's a total PIA , more trouble than he's worth then ditch him.
2006-07-08 00:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he means something to you as a friend, meet him and ask him what's up with his saying bad things about you. If he is just an acquaintence, you might want to avoid being further involved with him if he is that demanding.
2006-07-08 00:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dakota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him over the phone what was up with him last time you went out and what ever his response is decide whether you want to go out with him again.
2006-07-08 00:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by LouMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. He probably misses you lots. Forgive and forget. I never say things like this. Must be sleep deprivation. Mmmmmhmmmm. but yeah, give him another chance.
2006-07-08 00:47:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋