i had to let him go! we got married almost a year ago, and still aren't living together. he says he want to, but i don't know when. i live an hour away with my 2 big kids and grandchild...how can a marriage work when u don't live together? i know i'm right, i also found out he'd been talking to another female until a week ago (it "may" have stopped then, but dunno 4 sure). he changed his cell #, but didn't take the steps for us to move in together. and, this was what i wanted for us to work it out and stay together. now, i know i'm not asking too much. right?
2006-07-07 17:43:48 · 21 answers · asked by thundakat312 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a lot of unanswered questions. I don't understand why he married you if he didn't plan on living with you. You are not asking too much if you want to live with your husband.
Make sure he is being faithful.
I'm not certain on your circumstances, but you may be eligible for an anullment. Look into it.
Best wishes.
2006-07-07 17:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sara B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like you're asking for much at all. I think from what you said, you did the right thing for you. He doesn't really sound commited to making your marriage work. Not living together because of work? or.. just not living together because he doesn't feel like living there? I can't see a marriage working if the two of you are not really married all that long and still not living together. Sounds more like dating and less like marriage to me.. Good luck to you.
2006-07-08 00:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by mydragonmoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you pretty much know the solution to your problem. you have all the facts. married a yr and never living 2gether. what is wrong with this picture? when two people marry, its stating to the world and eachother that a bond is formed and that you choose to LIVE TOGETHER til death do you part. that was your first mistake to allow yourself to be mislead. you seem like a very intuitive person. it's time you follow your insticnt. its time to put your foot deep in concrete. or move in together now, not next year or its time for the old heave ho.. out the door you go. you must have a deadline and stick to it. do not cave in. the only one who ends up hurt is YOU.
2006-07-08 00:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good is a marriage if you two can't live together? Also why get married if he isn't sure about living together? Something is very wrong here so I would be careful and I would forget about ever living with him.As harsh as this sounds he is up to no good.
2006-07-08 00:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not asking for too much. I can't understand how you were married for almost a year and never lived together. How is that a marriage? Personally, I would've filed for an annulment.
2006-07-08 00:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by CaramelKidsMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you cant loose something you never had. i thought i heard of everything was you really married it doesn't sound like it you have to be together to make it work how can you stay in a marriage you never was in.
2006-07-08 00:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One always goes through these questions after having gone through a love separation. Sleep on it tonight, and tomorrow everything wil seem more clear.
2006-07-08 00:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cent per cent right.
Better let him go. This is not going to take you anywhere. You are in the middle of waters. He is using you for his selfish end.
Ignore him by bidding Good bye to him.
2006-07-08 00:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is customary to live together once married, often even before so that's strange.
2006-07-08 00:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
married and not living together??????? this is just brilliant!!!!!!!! does he pay for both places??????if so, where do i get one of these hubbys! ohhhhhhhh how cool would it be to see him when u want, not have to hear him farting all morning, and belching all night! this is a heaven marriage!
2006-07-08 00:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋