My boyfriend wants me to watch a sexually explicit movie with him. I have done it before but the relationship ended because the videos seemed more important....Should I say no I don't want to or should I watch one with him just to let him know I will watch one with him.....He also wants me to go to a strip joint with him....I'm not scared of what I will see just how he will see me afterward....am I being insecure about all this??? I feel really stupid about it.
2006-07-07 17:19:52 · 24 answers · asked by Mother2one238 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Allow your boyfriend to explore his sexuality openly. Let him know that you are uncomfortable doing these things with him because you fear that this could possibly put a strain on your relationship. By letting him explore his sexuality, you are finding out his fantasies. Use them against him, now that you know what he likes, you can cater to his sexual needs and desires.
2006-07-07 17:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you watch one video with him, then you are setting yourself up to view alot more in the future. let him know how you feel, and if he respects you and your morals he should understand. also don't go to the strip joint because he wants you too, really evaluate your feelings, never do something to please someone else, most importantly always be true to yourself. so if explicit videos and strip clubs is not you, then you need to let him know or move on.
2006-07-08 00:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are 2 different things. I see nothing wrong with watching a video with him at home, but if you're not comfortable going to the strip club, then don't go.
2006-07-08 00:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really don't, tell him so, if he still pushes u to watch the videos, tell him that your not interested in watching them, as for the strip joint, tell him that u prefer not to, without first talking about your feelings, and that if u feel uncomfortable once you get there, that he would be willing to leave, strip joints aren't for everyone, so don't feel bad for the way u feel, so just take the time to talk, k
2006-07-08 00:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let any man pressure you into something you arent comfortable with! If you dont want to watch the movie then dont if you dont want to go to a strip club then dont... but dont compromise your beliefs for a man... He will never respect you if you let him walk all over you and tell you what to do. You need to make up your mind and stand your ground if he doesnt like it then you dont need him!
2006-07-08 00:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm that way about pornos 2 i hate them but i have watched a couple of them with my sex partner but i just explained i'm shy around them i just endulge him sometime and he appriciates the effort i would go 2 a strip club just because he asked seems like he would rather spend time with u than the boys at least that way u know whats going on and u can control the money he spends
2006-07-08 00:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't watch the video if it makes you uncomfortable, concerning the strip joint i think your boy friend has a problem. he shouldn't need that kind of stimulation if he has you.
2006-07-08 00:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Sly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being insecure about it... as long as the two of you have common interests then it shouldn't be a problem. If it's something you're willing to do occasionally, then tell him that. Good luck:)
2006-07-08 00:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is don't do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. If your boyfriend loves you he will understand and he wouldn't want you to feel uncomfortable. Never feel stupid about your feelings.
2006-07-08 00:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need this guy!!!Run, don't walk,and don't turn back. If he respected you he'd wouldn't suggest this at all. Next thing you know he'll want a threesome.Would you want to be married to a creep like him? Of course you wouldn't. You deserve better.
2006-07-08 00:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋