How to get over my shyness?

Question

Can anyone give me some tips of how to get over my shyness? I get real nerves whenever it comes to getting in front of people(also, my heart beats real fast), i never go no where inless i am going shopping, and i dont talk to people inless they have something to talk about. The only time I really dont act shy is when I am around people I knew for a while or people i alwayz hang around. Can anyone give me some tips?

Answer 1

I developed similar behaviour a few years ago. I found it incredibly difficult to trust and open up to those around me. I always felt as though I was being judged and criticized. When conversing I would find odd ways of hiding my nervousness. I'd shift my legs repeatedly, bury my hands under a desk, hide them in my pockets or find an object with which I could conceal or transfer my energies. I felt incredibly inadequate and cared way too much about how people saw me, or whether they liked me or not.
Conversations were very hard. While talking, I constantly worried about how I was doing---Did I say the wrong thing just now? What is he/she thinking? Perhaps I should have done this. Maybe I shouldn't have said that.
After conversations, I'd repeatedly go over what I said or did and how I could have possibly done 'better'. I was extremely insecure and very fearful of relationships. Getting close to persons was a very long and complicated process.

It took building well-needed self-esteem before I could eventually begin behaving as a normal individual and forming more healthy relationships. I know my suggestions may seem a tad corny but they worked for me after a period of time. Perhaps you could give them a try :)

1) Wake up each day and force yourself to find 5 (different) things you like about you;
2) Tell yourself that you are your own person and you don't need the approval of others in order to feel adequate;
3) Know that there is nothing wrong with you. You're awesome the way you are.
4) Act confident. You may not feel this way, but after repeatedly putting out the actions it eventually becomes second nature and soon you'll begin to feel as good as you behave.
5) Go up to someone and begin a conversation.

Don't worry you'll be fine! :D

Take care.

Answer 2

I was shy for a long long time. REALLY shy. But you just have to do it. Even when you feel uncomfortable. The way I did it was to go to places like clubs alone and talk to people I didn't know. If I screwed up, I'd never see the people again. For the first few times I was so nervous I just stood alone for a while and left. But after I grew some balls I met alot of people I thought would never be cool to me. Now I'm a 5 star crowd talker. The more you do things, the more you let loose and relax. But being shy is you, and it will always be a little hard. If you're a girl, being shy is cute, so it's ok. I'm attracted to cute girls. If you're a guy, being shy can be unacceptable to some people, so get out there and "rock out with your cock out" so to speak. You only live once. Don't let people scare you!

Answer 3

I used to be very shy too, but I got over it during my freshman year of highschool. In order to overcome shyness, you'll have to do something that will force you to talk in front of large crowds. When I say large crowds, I don't mean the entire school. What I did was start a club at my school. Since I started it, I was automatically the president. Weeks went by and I had over 70 members, but it started to decline because they couldn't hear me during meetings. I couldn't stand losing the reputation of our club so I ended up talking louder and having people listen to me. As every meeting came and went, I began to have more confidence in myself. I didn't feel nervous anymore because I knew I had power over the members even if they were seniors at the school.

What I am trying to say is, do something that will make you talk to people you never met. Here are some suggestions:
- Start a club.
- Play a sport.
- Join a musical class at school.
- Go out with your friends and have them bring their friends.

Basically, do things that will allow you to meet more people. Honestly, you have nothing to be shy about. They don't know you, and you don't know them. Make friends. Talk to people and have them hear your words. Sometimes we just feel insecure or a bit too self-concious.

I'm sorry for squashing my thoughts all in fat paragraphs. I just got home from my summer math class and I'm tired. Good luck and don't be shy. :]

Answer 4

Take Public Speaking

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Be more willing to volunteer about anything. And start Public Speeking Classes. Or go to a school were u have to present presentations to your class and to your school. I go to that kind of school and know I'm not as shy as I once was.

Answer 7

go do something crazy...so when you look back you can say to yourself "i did this so ___ will be no problem" or just warm into it...like a roller coaster, you go in thinking "im not gonna like this, i want to go home..." but after you ride it you are like "that was fun, i was worried over nothing" sojust go introduse yourself to a random group of people and start a conversation...hope i helped

Answer 8

when you go to do something just tell yourself that you are the **** and keep telling yourself that until you feel better there is a whole speach to it but it really worked for me i also to a public speaking class over the summer that really helped too

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you've got "social anxiety". Check out this link and get some help. Good luck!

Answer 10

Talk to your doctor. sounds like to me this is some type of mental disorder that needs a doctors attention right away before it leads to depression.