OMG!! like my friend has been on and off with this guy. and we went on a get together to the mall **i was basically the 3rd Wheel** But i had sooo much fun with him, and i hadnt really tlked to him alot until then, now we cant stop tlking on email, and on instant messenger. And my friend thinks she might like someone but she is with him!! So i need ADvice FOR BOTH!! CUZ i know its the #1 Rule of Friendship---NEVER LIKE GUY Your friend has : LIked, Been with, or whatver!!
And My friend is awseom and i dont want to hurt her feelings if i accidently flirt with him so HELP!!
2006-07-07 17:04:49 · 11 answers · asked by gIrLy GiRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would stop contact with her boyfriend now. if he doesn't know you like him, don't tell him. just make up some other excuse like you're computer broke down. while youre not talking to him, meet some other guys and try to forget about him. if it doesn't work after AT LEAST A FEW WEEKS, talk to your friend. explain to her that your friendship means a lot to you and if she doesn't approve, don't date him!!! on the other hand, if she truley is interested in someone else...she may not mind. matter of fact, you may be just what she needs to get rid of him.
2006-07-07 17:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by guamtinkerbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your friend then do the following:
1. Stay away until they break up. Don't email him, don't IM him. Tell him that your friend means too much to you and that you don't want to get between them. Tell him to look you up when he's single.
2. Once they do break up, wait a few days to make sure your friend isn't upset about the break-up. Ask her if it's OK with her if you keep in contact with him because you think he's a cool guy.
3. If you do the first two things, then you will keep a great friend, AND possibly get a fun new boyfriend.
It's OK to like him, but have some boundaries. He is not at all an option if he is with your friend. This takes a little more self-control than teenage hormones can handle, but if you master the art of keeping boundaries with other people you will be a much more respected friend.
Best wishes.
2006-07-08 00:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you know the "#1 Rule of Friendship"! Why don't you talk with your friend? Ask her if she really likes someone else. If she do, persuade her to tell her true feelings to the guy she's dating. At least you're not feeling guilty that your friend is "maybe" cheating on the guy! If she do what you advice her to do, then you are now free to continue your friendship with that guy without the guilty heart! But take things slowly. Your friend might think that you advice her for the sake of having the guy! So start at friendship first. Good luck!
2006-07-08 00:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by eara1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no one accidentaly flirts. You are not being a very good friend to her and if he is flirting with you hes a lousy boyfriend. Keep that in mind if the chance ever come for you to be together. Stay away from him if your friend asks why you don't go out with them just say you don't like being a fifth wheel. And if she ever does break up and you want to go after him yourself speak to her first don't do it behind her back and if she says she doesn't want you with him put your friendship first and leave him alone. Theres plenty of boys in the world but very few best friends.
2006-07-08 00:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you more than like him. There must be more of a romantic or lustful attraction there. How much you value your friend and how strong you feel for this new attraction should answer your own question. Be careful, the fun may not last after all of this is in the open. Sometimes it is the games people play that make a relationship seem fun.
2006-07-08 00:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how your friend feels about you and "this Guy",
and how much you value her friendship.
Unfortunately this is the nature of things with females.
With a guy it would be" go ahead and take her, I'll find another"
2006-07-08 00:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by James A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend is still involved with this guy, stay away. If they break up, before you so anything talk to her about it. No guy is worth losing a friendship over.
2006-07-08 00:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they will probrably break up soon, but until they do stay away from him. You will lose your friend and get a snake for a boyfriend.
2006-07-08 00:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep him as a friend for now. im sure if yr friend like someone else the relationship wont last long with him then youll have yr chance.
2006-07-08 00:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by yumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try saying 2 urself i dont like him i dont like him ovr and ovr. try 2 avoid him. maybe u should talk 2 ur friend 2.
2006-07-08 00:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by jambajuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋