I left my husband last year after 5 years of unhappiness (we were together since May 1995 altogether) and repeated attempts on both sides for us to 'work things out' and basically be happier and more fulfilled together. When I left, we had just had a 3-some and I found my experience with the other woman to totally blow sex with a man out of the water!
I had a relationship with her for over a year, and am in the process of trying (and failing somewhat) to end it, as though I love her, I just don't feel I can happily lead a closeted life, for life! I feel like I am stringing her along..
It seems unfair to her, which I totally understand - but I can't get over the fact that I want to be able to hold hands in public, kiss when I feel like it, and be proud to have her at my side.
What should I do? Continue to try to break our ties, or find a way to get round this in my head (having been brought up as most people are to view homosexuality as non-mainstream and a little odd). help
2006-07-07 17:03:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know how you feel! Ive been with my girlfriend for over a year but it took me a while to come out to my parents. My friends were a bit easier because either they loved me or hated me. I grew up in the church and knew that what I was doing was non-mainstream. But what you need to realize is that she is human just like you and me. If you love her and she loves you just as much then let it be. There is nothing wrong with falling in love and who cares that its a female. Love is Love and you cant fight that.
You cant live a closet life. It just doesnt work that way. I have a friend who lives in LA who is very out but her girlfriend (they have been together for 2yrs) hasnt come out yet. Not even to her co-workers. They have been living together the whole time. trust me its not right for you to keep her in the dark. Try talking to her about the way you feel because I bet shes been there b4! We all have at some point and time hid from the outside. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel. She may be of more help then anyone!
2006-07-12 05:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by jjsassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming to accept yourself is sometimes the hardest part. You need to decide what YOU want, and what makes YOU happy in your life, sexually AND emotionally. Once you accept yourself, other pieces of your life will start to fall into place. Sometimes it helps to come out little by little, telling the people that you know will love you no matter what.
Hope all goes well for you sweetie, good luck.
2006-07-09 15:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy. No one should have to be miserable hiding something just because someone else might look down upon it. If you truly care about her and she feels the same go for it. Forget what someone else might think.
2006-07-08 00:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are and you should be happy. But why were you and your hubby unhappy for five years? Was it a sex issue or was it other things that might be unrelated to your sexuality?
Think about these things.
2006-07-08 00:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by dwmajick2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to that person. . .you should be proud of who you are and who you love. If you are confused maybe you need time to find your self. Take sometime to think things over.
You should never hide who you are and always love who you are.
You seem afraid of what others will think. Well **** them it's your life and you should be happy.
2006-07-08 00:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life, do what makes you happy.
2006-07-08 01:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Surv Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a pervert
2006-07-08 00:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋