i did something very wrong towards my husband, i lied to him that i was pregnant...in the time he discovered about it, he was so mad...even his mother, to the point that she wants to annul our marriage, he is living with his parents now and i am afraid that he will be convince by his mother to leave me forever...don't i deserve second chance? do you think, he still love me despite of everything i did? can he still forgive me? anyway, i'm feeling so guilty...
2006-07-07 16:56:41 · 23 answers · asked by ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ann, you are not a bad person...just in a bad spot in your life. If you lied to get him to marry you...then that's not a good start for a relationship. Even if you were pregnant.....that's not a good reason marrying someone. If you were already married, did you think a baby would fix the problems in your relationship? It would have only been a temporary distraction from them. Take a hard honest look at why you lied about the pregnancy and decide if recconciling is the best thing to do.
You sould explain honestly why you lied. Maybe you can start over again. If that means living apart for a while to get a solid foundation, that's what you should do so that your relationship can last.
If he doesn't forgive you, pick up the pieces and move on - it wasn't a good relationship to start with. You will have learned a painful but important lesson. best of luck to you.
2006-07-07 17:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by butterflyfan23 1 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I think the real question is not do you deserve a second chance its Why did you lie to him about being pregnant in the first place? You need to get to the root of the problem if you want to fix it... You cant just say oh honey im sorry i lied now come home and forgive me... Why did you lie and when you apologize MEAN IT and tell him why you lied and maybe get some counseling because it sounds like there may be more than what you are telling us on the surface...
2006-07-07 17:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake which only shows that you are human and the guilt you feel is normal. I wonder if your husband has ever told a lie and if someone has forgiven him. I'm sure he still loves you, but he is a little hurt for the mistake you made. You definitely deserve a second chance. Give him a call and apologize and if he doesn't accept your apology then he's not much of a man.
2006-07-07 17:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by coindude777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked for opinions.. so here is mine. No .. I dont believe you deserve a second chance. Lying is never a way to start a foundation for a marriage. In my life I do not tolerate lies and deception. How can he ever trust what you say again. It will always be in the back of his mind. And a lie told once... is much easier to do again and again. You made a mistake yes... learn from it and move on if he makes the choice not to trust you.
2006-07-07 17:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by mrsblu0z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel guilty.
You have betrayed his trust.
Things will never be the same.
Someone wrote on here:
Break a glass, try to glue it back together. It will be weak in spots.
Throw the glass away.
Your husband will come to this point sooner or later.
You are in for hell girl and you do deserve it , but don't you think you have put him through enough.
If I sound harsh , I mean it to be.
That is a horrible thing to do.
2006-07-07 17:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke his trust when you lied to him about something as important as this. Real love is built on trust so once the trust is gone, I don't know if he could forgive you. Did you tell him that you were pregnant so that he would marry you or were you married BEFORE you told him the lie? You mustn't have been sure that he would love you just for you if you felt that you needed to trick him in order for him to marry you. This is very sad. I believe that once you have apologized to both him and his family, that you should just wait and see what happens. Maybe if you wait,and give him time,he MAY forgive you, but I wouldn't count on it. Being truthful is SO important in any relationship.
2006-07-07 17:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I disagree with the lady who gave the first answer, You didn't "have" to lie. But, I would explain to him why you did, and be honest with him regardless of what the reason was. If he sees you are genuinely sorry for what you did, then yes, you do deserve a second chance. But, with this your have the responsibility to show your husband the honor and respect you promised him in your marriage covenant, and not pull little games with his emotions just for your own personal jollies.
2006-07-07 17:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand why someone would tell their spouse a lie like that. I am not sure I could give a second chance with that kind of lie. I do wish you the best and hope you have learned a valuable lesson.
2006-07-07 17:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell him you are pregnant if your not . Coming from a guy here, thats like entrapment. Ive had people tell me that before to keep me with them. When I found out, I was outta there. If you want him back, talk to him and explain yourself very well. That might work.
2006-07-07 17:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think he really loves you in the first place, you did not did what you did. why do you need to tell him lies just to marry you? whatever reason you will say to him will all goes down to one point, you deceived him. you have to apologize to what you did and everything now depends on your husband if he wants to continue your relationship. what ever his decision is, you have to accept that because he will think that you lied to him once, you can do it again. good luck.
2006-07-07 17:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by my 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋