theres 3 of my friends. and they told me the other night that im stuck up my boyfriends @$$ and said that i have to go to him for every little thing. well the thing is my boyfriend likes to know where im at what im doing and who im with..you know just to make sure im not doing anything stupid..and well now they all stop talking to me..the one who told me that i was stuck up his @$$ hasnt talked to me since like may..the other two are mad because i leave these away messages on aol saying who cares and all this mess..i wont talking about them..i was talking about everybody...cuz it seems like noone cares about me anymore cept my boyfriend..ive tried talking to them on the computer but they ignore me..so what do i do?
2006-07-07 16:54:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well tell you the truth...my boyfriend isnt a control freak...he takes good care of me and he DOES NOT abuse me..if he did then i wouldnt be with him
2006-07-07 17:11:15 · update #1
ive also been stressed to the point where i have had a snotty behavior..and he doesnt ask me ALL THE TIME EITHER.
2006-07-07 17:13:02 · update #2
find new friends
Granted, they are only concerned about you, and normal relationship doens't require that you have to check in at all times. It's called trust, and your boyfriend needs some in you.
However, if they were real friends and were concerned that you were in a controlling relationship, they wouldn't turn their back on you.
You need new friends...
2006-07-07 17:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. I'm a bit concerned about your relationship. To me, at least on the surface, it sounds like you boyfriend is being just a little too controlling of your life. Let's look at it objectively. If he's constantly wanting you to report about your whereabouts and questioning you about who you have talked with that should be a red flag to you that he's a controlling personality. Be very careful around someone who exhibts this type of behavior, While it may seem sweet and innocent enough now it can grown into something much more problematic later on if you allow it to continue. Look, he's already got you seperated from your friends before you know it the same may happen with your family. Just something to think about.
Your friends are your friends and they probably sense the same thing as I perceive here. Just go and talk to your friends in person and try and patch things up with them. As for your boyfriend...you need to set some boundries and ground rules up front so that he doesn't think he's your DADDY or that he owns you. Remember relationships are built on a foundation of trust and open communication. Just be careful, okay :)
Best of luck to you!
-Danny
2006-07-08 00:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Danny M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should rethink your childish attitude??? Here's the thing: your friends are concerned about you.
From what you've said, your bf sounds like a control freak, and that's just wrong. When someone controls you to the point of knowing what/who/when/where/why ALL the time, that's abuse.
As for your friends not caring about you, that's backward; you drove them away with your AOL messages and snotty behavior, and now your whining about it.
Take a step back, consider crawling out of your bf's a$$ and apologizing to your friends for your rudeness.
2006-07-08 00:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they sound like that great of friends but perhaps I don't know the whole situation. Maybe that just want to spend more time with you. Perhaps they are upset that they don't have as much input into your life like the used to. If you have good relationship with your boyfriend don't mess it up. Talk to your friends and find out why they are so upset, they to understand it, get them to explain better than saying you are up his @ss. Get them to give you more specifics
2006-07-08 00:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend if he trusts you. If not then leave him. There are other guys out there. Your boyfriend doesn't have to know everything your doing. If he trust you then he would not want to know everything your doing.
2006-07-08 00:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what? don't lose your friends over your boyfriend.
Especially if you had your friends longer.. NO GUY is worth losing friends over
2006-07-08 00:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going to grow up to be a wife beater.
2006-07-08 00:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with your guy? How long have they been your friends?
2006-07-08 00:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Linda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋