2006-07-07 16:51:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust in a relationship is a tricky issue, particularly if someone from outside the relationship is meddling in it.
First of all, you and your boyfriend need to define "cheating" for you as a couple. Ask him what his definition is - if it doesn't match with yours, and you _have_ done something that meets his definition, you need to admit to it, work it out, and come up with a definition you agree on. If you haven't done something that meets his definition, you still need to define it for the two of you.
Second, trust is earned, but how to earn that trust is something different for each person. Ask him what it will take to earn his trust. If it's something you can live with, there is no harm in doing it. If it isn't, you may be better off apart. BTW, this is a two way street - what he expects of you, you should be able to expect of him and vice versa - IE, if he wants to listen in on your phone calls, you should be able to listen in on his.
Finally - and this is the LAST thing you should approach - deal with the other two first - you need to ask him to explore what this other girl's motives are for calling him and telling him that. Don't try and tell him what her motives are - let him figure them out himself. This is very important, particularly if you are "innocent of the charges", because trying to argue that she's meddling will just make her argument seem stronger. This is about you and him, not her.
Oh, one last thing - if you really are cheating on him, do yourself and him a favor, and admit it, then deal with the consequences. Some relationships can handle it, and some can't. It will either make the relationship stronger, or end it - and either result is better than the lies and deceit.
2006-07-07 17:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is looking for a reason to break up with you. There is no way in hell my man would believe some girl over me unless I have given him a reason to believe someone else. Like if I cheated before or other things like that.
2006-07-07 16:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by LouMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Lady,
Love builds up on faith and dependence. If Ur BF dont have that, Its not True love from his side, because he still haven't understood U.
Love in my belief isnt having someone to have sex or to date. Its having the shelter of Mind, As out tired body want a shelter, thats our House, our tormented mind too need a shelter. Love is that Shelter, One very dependable, caring and safe.
On maturity, we seek that in our wife /Hubby .
So, If Ur BF dont have that belief/faith on U, I am sorry baby, Its the reflection of his own mind, perhaps, he too would steal from you to act like that.
2006-07-07 17:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Prasun B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are telling him the truth and he still doesn't believe you, then there is no trust in the relationship. In my opinion, you can't have a relationship without trust.
2006-07-07 16:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been honest with him in the past, he should trust you. If he doesn't, say goodbye.
2006-07-07 16:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes ur bf he shuld belive u
2006-07-07 16:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by punkyjunkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well I guess she likes him and wants him.
2006-07-07 16:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, R U?
2006-07-07 17:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jorge S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes him and is trying to steal him from you.. don't let her
2006-07-07 17:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u???????????/
2006-07-07 16:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋