My BF whom I have a baby with is smoking, and I don't like it. I feel like he's wasting his time and I've told him but no matter what, I end up being the one who is wrong...he says that I am always trying to change him, but I do not believe I am, I'm just trying to help him better himself but he cannot see that. He thinks that marijuana is just something he does, like how I study and go to school....I'm tired of his habit and I'm stuck because I love him but I hate what he does.....what should I do, I'm still young and I know I can find someone else, but I don't know if it's worth going through another relationship...what if it ends up the same or even worst???
2006-07-07 16:46:09 · 11 answers · asked by Cool Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's right, you cannot force him to change. He will not give it up until he's ready to. If you continue nagging him you are going to drive him away. You need to decide if this is truely a relationship that you want to stay in or not.
2006-07-07 16:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be miserable in a situation because of something "he" does that you don't like. This is not like squeezing the toothpaste tube from the middle or crap like that. You have a child and a future to think about. Ask him about counseling or a treatment center. Better yourself and your child's life. If he refuses, leave him in the dust!
2006-07-07 23:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kim m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just seperate and find someone who will accept you no matter who you are. That man will just hurt you or may be your baby too in the future because of whats his doing.
2006-07-07 23:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its that bad you should leave him, its very unhealthy, and i know how you feel! if your unhappy its very unhealthy, did he smoke weed before you met him? because if you knew then why complain? most pot heads will be that way forever no changing them sorry. but im shur you could do better than that loser anyways so you go girl! get outta there hunny! while your still young!-Maria
2006-07-07 23:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I have a cousin in Ur position,,the only difference is she has 5 kids who r now addicted to their fathers marijuana aroma,,,its Ur chose sweetie, obviously Ur man has picked his love,,,a fat blunt.
U really need to be careful with ur baby,,and him alone.
2006-07-07 23:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what u just said
that its an addiction, and he needs help
i went thro the same addiction, and u cant get help, if u dont admit that u need it
tell him that
love jess
PS... GOOD LUCK
2006-07-07 23:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by GC_RiotGrl_879 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with smoking. besides, he pry smokes because he has to deal with you. just reading all that complaining makes me want to smoke.
2006-07-07 23:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by paul04r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was he was smoking weed before you got married then your screwed because it's s high chance that it will
A.) deform your kids
B.)make your children stupid or retarted
C.) in none of the above happen then if he still smokes your children will get addicted!
dump the drugie
2006-07-08 09:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by trojanrhyme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you can't handle it, find someone else, a pot smoker is a pot smoker, there's nothing wrong with it, and it's not an addiction, so as long as he's not exposing you or your kids to it, and can afford it, what's the problem?
2006-07-07 23:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he smoke b4 u were together???? if so, STFU! and stop trying to change him, u should have thought about it b4 u had kids to him!
2006-07-07 23:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋