Me and my hysban officially separated in Dec. of last year. He then 2 weeks later started messing with this other chic he claims is just firend w benifits. We had been talkin about workin on our marriage and getting back together while he was in Cali. on temporary orders. He came back and the first person he saw was her. Not even considering I might be emotionally hurt due to my 2nd misscarraige i had (the 1st was in 04' w/twins at 5 mos. in which he didn't want) , 2 1/2 weeks prior (in which he didn't want either). So why be with a woman that has kids??
2006-07-07 16:38:55 · 17 answers · asked by yelloerose07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her kids are 2 and 3. And we all work in the same hospital too.Isn't that trife?
2006-07-07 16:49:04 · update #1
I have a right to act the way I am. I am the Wife. You probobally feel that I am a brat b/c you were that woman i'm referring to 4t's mom.
2006-07-07 17:09:36 · update #2
honey first get yourself together mentally regroup don't sit and think about the what if's and all you owe it to yourself to be in tip top shape mentally physically and spiritually you need to stay away from him he doesnt want to have kids of his own but you do so why have unprotected sex if you dont want kids he should of bagged it up you dont need to be with someone that doesnt want that responsibilty and leave you to handle that on your own he is with her because there is no real commitment those arent his kids so he can get up and go anytime no love lost none gained there is no emotional connection with her kids or her he sees her as conveneince someone to lay up with when he wants to and shes all for it and he can get up and go after without feeling gulity or worrying about leaving kids behind he doesnt want kids because hes not ready forthat major responsiblity leave him alone move forward
2006-07-07 16:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is not always about the way ppl look or how much money they have or about how many Kidd's you may or may not have. it
usually goes by how someone makes the other feel
she might be a beautiful person not by looks but her soul you sound
like a drama queen with the omg i had miscarriages that happens everyday, you also sound like a nag matter of fact here you go right here
drama queen
nag
you think you got it goin on
selfish
bratty
needy
you should try to work on your personality the sun does not rise and set with you she might be great person did you ever think of that personality makes and breaks a person you might be cute as button but you r a crappy person and I'd choose 10 Kidd's over that any day you might be mad about this but you know this is the truth work on self start trying to really see other ppl instead of trying to be the center allllllll the damnnnnnnnnn time!
2006-07-07 23:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to say this to sound callous or mean, but....from the sounds of this man maybe the man above is looking out for you. How would you feel if he were doing all this and then there are innocent children involved. Here is your chance to find a good man....they are out there.....no better time than the present. This is only one life that you get....be happy......be loved.......& you will some day wonder why you ever let this man make you feel like you do.
2006-07-07 23:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered that he might be with her because she is the mother of his kids. Men are full of lies. Why even consider to go back with him. Doesn't it disgust you that he's been with another woman. If he went to her even after you had that miscarriage then his not even worth your time nor day. Be strong if he sees that you need him he is only going to treat you like ****. And back to the question if those aren't his kids then maybe his getting his cake and eating it too. He gets to have the privileges of dealing with kids, without the responsibility's
2006-07-07 23:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they aren't his. He has no responsibility to them. If your husband is doing that I'd make that trial separation a permanent one. You need someone whose top priority is you and who wants to have children with you, not who will borrow another family when the going gets tough. You need a guy with more balls and a bigger heart. One that beats only for you.
2006-07-07 23:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the fact that although she has kids he isnt responsible for her kids, he's a little boy in a mans body that is trying to avoid all senses of responsibility.. ur better with out him..
2006-07-08 00:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be with a man who shows he doesn't respect you or care about you? Do yourself a big favor and leave him alone. Staying with him is going to be one mess after another. Get yourself a happy life.
2006-07-07 23:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he wants to be with this other woman. If he is in love with this woman than he had to accept the fact that she has children. It could also be that he just didn't want to have kids with you. I am sorry for your loss though.
2006-07-07 23:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about the loser, he undoubtly showed you who he really wanted. Find you a man who really wants you can cares for you and let the loser stay with the other woman you can do much better....Good luck
2006-07-07 23:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should forget bout him, there was a reason that u guys separated in the first place right? never go into the same river again
2006-07-07 23:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋