Well Im fixin to to turn 19 and im still a virgin well i don't have a girlfriend and haven't had one in 7 years im lonely everyone of my friends are having sex or had to sex and or no longer a virgin i get upset because they lose there virginity and i can't why and another thing ever time i look at a hot girl i get picked at because i go dog crazy of her and want stop talking about her well i also masturbate at night to help me deal with it because im a virgin and im lonely and i don't have anyone to have a relationship with what kind of advice do you have for me.
2006-07-07 16:22:25 · 11 answers · asked by ferretboy_ferretkid 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am 20 and got the same thing or a problem that you got. Hang in there though man, we can make it through this thing. Getting through it won't be easy or seem easy but we will make it through it. It like everybody my age range that I know of have lost thier virginity or have found that other person to have sex and live thier life with. I feel like I a bad person or doing something wrong since I still a virgin and all my friends not. I am not wrong though and me staying a virgin will pay off in the long run. It will do the same for you as well.
Just wait til you find that right person in your life and share that moment of losing your virginity with her on that special night. You will feel good and be glad that you waited til that special moment in life. You may think you need to have sex cause everybody else your age is but actually you don't need it. You will be fine if you don't have sex til later in life or with that special person in your life.
Another thing is if you are actually ready to have sex and face the consequences that could possibly happen. I am meaning the risk of getting a girl pregnant and having a kid that you are not ready to have yet? Can you support a kid at such a young age? The risks of getting an STD that will be with you the rest of your life. Are you ready for all this? If you are not, than you are not ready for sex. I don't even want to think of what it would be like living if I got an STD at this young of an age. I myself want to have a kid, I love kids and just want to have one of my own right now it seems like. Am I ready for one though? No, I may think I am when in all reality I am not ready for one. How am I suppose to juggle work, school, than a kid on top of that?
Just hang in there and you as well as me will get through this. It does seem hard but we will get there. If want to talk to me some more about this, please go under my page and send me a message. I would be willing to talk to you about this and anything else you may want to talk about. If not that fine. I hope this is of help to you though.
2006-07-07 17:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by jacoboctober11 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. It will happen eventually. I'll avoid all of the arguments on disease and pregnancy and stuff and focus on relationships. This sounds kind of korny, but sex just to have sex is pretty empty unless it's with someone you happen to care about. As for everyone giving you sh*t about it......who cares? A: It's none of the business. B: If they're so focused on it they're immature and there's a pretty good chance they are lying about it.
Talk to women about thier intrests and you'll find someone you'll hit it off with, most likely won't be "loose" (see above about disease) and will be generally be a heck of alot better.
PS: The first time it generally sucks...but then again it's like pizza...even when it's bad it's still pretty good.
2006-07-07 23:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by r_ulost2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going to church. Go to nine or ten & make sure their have a college group. When you know the times of the colleges groups go. Try to go to atleast 3 times a week and you will meet a women for sure. She will probably want to get married before having sex, but she will most likey have her viginity too. So, go get married & score with another virgin.
2006-07-07 23:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by antihero1776 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It is not something so important. Just relax! You will never paprepared and know when you will lose your viginity. It is not like a plan!
Taking some sports, develop your hobbies, Know some new friends, Life , of course not only sex!
Cheer up!
2006-07-08 00:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mathew Dai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay
It sounds like you are too horny. First, I would stop overmasturbating. Second, I would work on the no girlfriend in seven years bit. Third, don't worry about how hot a chick is. They are usually bitches (no offense to hot chicks - not all of them are). Third, I would wait till marriage for sex.
2006-07-07 23:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, stop calling yourself ferret boy.
secondly, stop worrying about it.
third, don't worry about how often you rub on it, and ignore people who think it ain't a good thing.
and finally, loosing your virginity ain't gonna cure loneliness. Having a relationship just to have one is a wasted effort, and making it harder to have a relationship with someone you love.
when I was 19, most of my friends were virgins too, and none of us would admit it, but we would harass each other about it. and I ain't that old.
2006-07-08 02:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by chris p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an adult toy store and buy a pocket vagina. It is safer than catching an STD, and there are no chances of "complications".
Alway remember the saying "cover me, I'm going in"!
2006-07-08 01:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by bigmonky2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is over rated, especially when it is not with your spouse. It leads to broken hearts, STDs and soul ties. I hope I can encourage you to maintain your virginity until you get married. Trust me, its worth it.
2006-07-07 23:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by free2praise76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep masturbating till you find someone you can be happy & emotionally involved with. Relationships arent' based soley on sex unless you are paying for it.
2006-07-07 23:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the sunday underwear ads, head to the bathroom and spank that monkey
2006-07-07 23:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Frank G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋