How can I stop doubting myself?

Question

I think I'm my worse critic. How do you believe in yourself?

Answer 1

wow,good question!Been there too..I agree with you ,we can be our worst enemy from time to time...thats is so human.There isnothing wrong with you,but maybe you can make a to do list to regain a good self estime...maybe you are doing too much for others and abandoning yourself,like I sometimes do.Take 1 step at a time and think /concentrate about your priotities ..Love your self by letting other love you too.And maybe checking the degree of expectations you have for yourself and others...ask yourself if you just have really high expectations for everything just like Me...My God,I know how you feel.

Answer 2

Impossible. I doubt you and I don't know you 1 10Th as well as you know yourself. When you stop screwing everything up all the time you can begin to think about not doubting your self. Ask yourself, "How many lives have I taken since I was born with my one life?" Just look at your windshield. Ever use raid on a nest of hornets or ants or mosquitoes? How many doggies and kitties and birdies have you destroyed in your life? Most people a guilty of three human deaths before they are 30 years old. Why shouldn't you doubt yourself, you are a walking death machine. How many moo cows have you eaten? It is unbelievable the death count that is racked up on tour karma. Did you ever once practice vegetarianism? Or lesbianism? Did you ever ask your congressman to do something about overpopulation by sterilizing felons, welfare recipients, and people with IQ under 130? Did you? You are supposed to doubt yourself if you live wrongly. How else will you improve. Do you think you can wait around for suffering forget it. God has better things to do than to send you some suffering to help you become a better person. You might just have to do it on your own. Thank you and good night.

Answer 3

Focus on the positive things about you. Think about all the things you are good at. Don't focus on the negative, let it go. Don't ask others cause they may not have the right answers. Only you should care what you think of yourself. Believe in yourself always. Don't look to others to make you see how great you are. Look within yourself and you will find the answers. Be happy with who you are and keep working on it

Answer 4

I just not sure you can.

Wait, that's not very helpful. Take the advice given with regard to people attempting to survive in a harse environment, that is "continually make decisions" Each incorrect decision, one that has a negative result, will help you to learn your limits. Each correct decision will build your confidence. Start off by making small decisions that won't ruin your life if they turn out badly, and force yourself to become more aware of the decisions you're making every day so that you'll be able to ascertain when you've made a good decision or a bad one. Knowing that you are controlling your life and makng plenty of good decisions/choices will ultimately lead to higher self-confidence and less self-doubt.

Answer 5

I had to get close to God and start looking at myself from a biblical perspective not the way the media and other insecure people looked at me. So my advice to you is to evaluate yourself, your support network (friends and family). You need to get positive people around you, anyone that doesn't have your back should be cut loose. When you find yourself getting stronger, you may find a lot of people really are not your friends. But don't get discouraged new (better) people will replace them.
And remember it only matter what you think and feel about yourself, ultimately no one else can validate you.

Answer 6

Practice accepting yourself lovingly, without judgment. Remind yourself that others have similar doubts, and forget about pleasing others. Be honest with yourself of course: observe and accept and make adjustments where you think profitable. Believe in the idea that we unfold and grow as naturally as does an acorn or any living thing. It is our nature to grow. Focus on natural perfection... including overcoming faults, and allow yourself faults of humanity in the process. Relax. And let joy be present in this unfoldment.

Answer 7

Only you can do it, and, if you want to, you can! Don't be so dependent upon others giving you encouragement and praise, because the effects of it are very temporary. You need to want to believe in yourself to the point to where if someone compliments you, it is a nice thing, but not what you are dependent upon for self-confidence, and if someone criticizes you, it does not bruise or effect your ego. You can do it, the question is, how bad do want it?

Answer 8

Imagine yourself as a confident person free from self-doubt. Hold this image everyday until it sinks into your spirit. Whenever negative thoughts about yourself enter your mind, erase them immediately. Try this free self confidence course and I recommend you get the CD trainer as well it's worth every penny! Confidence will become a way of life for you!

When you wake up in the mornings get a clear picture of a self-image in your mind. What do you want to accomplish today? Write it on a piece of paper and post it on the refrigerator, mirror or someplace in your dorm. Engrave it on your heart.

Answer 9

Self-doubt is good, as long as it isn't crippling.

Socrates said "all I know is that I know nothing". A very wise position.

That guy who answered and said that he looks down on people and thinks he is "beta" than other people - well, he's on a losing streak right there.

Self-doubt means that you are considering options, different points of view. Everyone suffers from self-doubt to soem degree - it is healthy.

Answer 10

I read books that improve me from the inside out. (How to Win Friends and Influence People, See You at the Top, Who Moved My Cheese, etc.) These books have changed my attitude, and in turn changed me. I don't doubt myself now because I am improving daily. You can do it also.