how can you get over something really bad that's happened to you but more bad stuff keeps happening...?

Question

i was violated but the police took care of it and everything but i need help with the healing practice

Answer 1

Yes, Bad things will keep happening till you change it. When something super bad happens it don't matter how little the problems you have after they are large. Things that if the super bad had not happen you would have just deflected and went on your way is now a supper bad.

First off you will need to (I know it is hard to do) forget the best you can and move on. Get revenge if you have to but don't do anything illegal. And don't let revenge be your only goal. Church is not the answer because that is a downer and will make you re-live the event over and over and you know everyone there knows about what happens. It is none of any ones business but maybe your closest friends. Maybe family if you are that close to them.

I do not know your age so I can't give advise on what to get involved into. But the best thing would be to be around people and do things. The more fun things you are doing the less you think about what happened. Or take care of business because you will be thinking about something else. Time is the only cure. You just have to get there. So till time heals you have to make yourself get up in the mornings and interact with people and keep your mind busy.

Answer 2

Hi, I am sorry to hear about your trouble but here are some ideas:

1. Talk to people you can trust about the situation. Counselors are good to start with because it is their job to be trusted and to hear about horror stories. They can also teach you ways to overcome what has happened and help you live without the event affecting your everyday life. Support hotlines can be a good way to start if you are nervous, since they are free and anonymous.

2. Support groups can be helpful because you can meet other people who have been through the situation and learn how other people are dealing with it and not letting it affect their everyday life. Kind of the same as #1, but you can talk with other victims.

3. If you have something that you enjoy/ is fun for you to do, engage in it! Engage in activities that are relaxing, comforting, and fun can help give you back your sense of self worth, self-esteem, and bring you a sense of happiness and joy about your own life so you don't let the even take over your entire life.

4. Take a step back and realize that although this event was painful, you still have many more years to make life wonderful and people around you who care about you and will be there with you to celebrate your lifes' ups and downs. Don't isolate yourself from these people.

5. Stay strong. You will survive the event and move on with your life!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well. I can somewhat relate. Not to being violated but to the "bad things keep happening" part. It seems the hits just keep on coming. The thing I try to always remind myself of is; "It could ALWAYS be worse". Because it can and has, we both know that. I'm in the middle of another one right now. I try with everything I've got to cling to church, family, any friends that are still around, etc... Even the fact that I saw your question helps. There's someone else with different circumstances but the same issue or problem. I don't know if any of this helps but I hope it does...

Answer 4

Healing can only come from inside you, and not by the outside world. You also need to know how to forgive. Fogiveness is a big part of making what happened a thing of the past. I'm not saying that what they did was okay, but make sure that you are not limiting yourself because of your incident. Forgive. You will move on and become stronger.

Answer 5

You have to have a positive attitude, that way when bad things happen to you they don't seem as bad and you can deal with them better. To have a positive attitude, you have to tell yourself out loud everyday, that, I am good, I attract good and positive things into my life, I am successful in life, in my relationships, at work, whatever you want. Once you start telling yourself this out loud over and over again, your brain starts to think that way and not dwell on the negative and thus you start attracting these things into your life. This is not easy, I am going through a rough period myself right now but it seems to be working. Remember, your brain is a computer, so you need to program it the way you want it to think and what you want to become!

Answer 6

Honey, you need to see a counselor. You will NEVER get over something like this, but you can move beyond it, and the only way you will is by talking it out. Trust me, I am not someone who likes talking to people about my problems, but this is truly the only way you can move on in a healthy way. Contact your local police department and they can direct you to local help for this type of thing.

Answer 7

By going to a support group - its free and extremely helpful knowing there are people out there that have similiar bad experiences.

Answer 8

This is because you never get over that stuff...ya you get used to it...it becomes part of your everyday life...but you were violated...nobody has permission to do that to anybody.... there are so many things people never get over...you just get used to them and realize there just a speed bump in your road of life. (that sounded cheesy i know, but its true)

Answer 9

please seek councilling .or talk to someone you feel comfortable talking to.also think positive and postive things will start happening. stay away from people who have negative thoughts.cause that will just bring you down. find someone soon that you can talk to . all the best take care