we have been married for 5 years and the past year has been hell. we have clashed so badly and i cry just about every night because i seriously don't know what to do
2006-07-07 15:19:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh boy, you need to go to counseling even if he doesn't want to. counseling is very important for your personal wellness in this situation. the paid counselor will put new tools in your bag to "fix" many problems you are having right now.
simple things like how to calm down in stressful situations to more rubber meets the road stuff like what really going on.
you love him, go to counseling and help yourself. he will either respond to you positively or negatively. either way you will have a plan on what to do next.
i wish you a long and happy marriage.
2006-07-07 15:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him and would do anything to save the marriage, but it sounds like he's already checked out of the relationship. Not working to fix the problem (s) means you don't care enough to put forth the effort. Marriage is hard work and when one partner is not willing to work to improve things, there's really no way that things can just spontaneously get better. Can you imagine crying every night for the next 40-50 years? You have some difficult decisions to make. I'm sorry!
2006-07-07 15:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried something other than counseling? Try something like going out on a date, if that doesn't work you need to do whats best for you. If he isn't willing to try and save the marriage then i think you need to either try harder or just call it quits (it may be the hardest thing to do but it may be worth it in the end).
2006-07-07 15:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by babeydede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you said to yourself "today is the first day of our life together" and started all over? Just start over like all the yesterdays did not exist. Start all over. Start "dating" again. Become mysterious and sexy. get a belly ring. get a tan. start exercising and do all the thing that helps you to love yourself. become really happy and someone he wants to come home to! try it!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-07-07 15:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give an ultimatum, either counselling or separation. then you'll see if he cares at all.
2006-07-07 15:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by skyway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋