I care so much about my boyfriend but all he does is push me away but he tells me he loves me. I know he does but how do I get him to open up to me more?
2006-07-07 15:10:58 · 21 answers · asked by Danielle D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be there for him and let him know you're not going anywhere. Good luck:)
2006-07-07 15:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you guys been together? Does he push you away all the time or just about certain problems? Has he been hurt by another and now is afraid that if he opens up to you it may happen again. If so then only time will cure this sort of thing. Just being there for him and letting him know that you will help him no matter what will hopefully open him up. I know it's hard to see someone you care about hurt and not be able to help but in the long run he may see you and then realize that you have been there the whole time.
2006-07-07 22:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by jaxmel2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill out and stop pushing. If there's something he wants or needs to tell you he will eventually, IF he loves you. You might also tell him straight out that you want your relationship to be more emotionally intimate, and you feel you can't have that type of relationship if he is always all clammed up.
It also depends on how long you guys have been seeing each other and/or known each other. He may just be a very private person, may not trust you enough, or just may not have a very exciting life. You on the other hand, may just need to assess how much of an "open" relationship you want with this guys versus having a guy in your life who tells you EVERYthing you ever wanted to know.
2006-07-07 22:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danielle, listen, sometimes it's best to sit back and stop talking. Give your boyfriend time to tell you how he feels. Right now, you may seem more like a parental figure than a girlfriend. Try it out. Not for a week, but more so a month. Don't act so concerned ,don't ask what is going on in his head, don't tell him that you will always be there for him, don't tell him to open up and trust you. Just listen.
2006-07-07 22:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has trust issues. Pushing him isn't going to help...if anything it'll make matters worse.
All you can do is prove to him he can trust you, and hope he opens up. Some people are never capable of opening up to someone else.
If it looks like that is how it'll be, you need to decide whether you can live like that or not. Give him some time...and see how things progress. Then you have to make a decision.
2006-07-07 22:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue at my house. Good thing your not married yet. Just tell him if he doesnt want to open up, he is making you feel very separate from him, and you dont think this relationship has what you need for it to go forward. Then , brake up. Clearly he is emotionally selfish. If you stay with him under these circumstances imagine your future?
2006-07-07 22:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by seamonkey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try asking his friends about his likes and dislikes. If there's something there you might like to try that he does then that becomes your window to get inside.
Just be patient, most of all, no one likes someone who's too pushy about opening up. Just think about flowers, they all open on their own. No sense trying to force it open just to see it in full bloom, you'll just end up with a wrecked flower, or relationship in your case.
2006-07-07 22:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by TinaNJerry C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him on it. It's called being "passive agressive" He;s controlling the dynamics of the relationship by NOT interacting.
Make it known that you want to be a part of his life but you can't when he "shuts down"
Make sure you reward his openess and step away when he closes the doors.
2006-07-07 22:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with him about this subject, just dont act too clingy guys hate that. But who know's there are some people I guess that will never change for anyone.
2006-07-07 22:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop pushing. Just be there and listen. Don't try to give him all the answers when he does start to talk. Just listen.
2006-07-07 22:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not my intention to be pessimistic, but I do believe such things shouldn't occur. If he doesn't open up to you, it's either because he's afraid to or he just doesn't want to. It's your task, then, to determine which one it happens to be. If it's that he's afraid, you just need to help him overcome that fear. If it's because he doesn't want to, it may be best to give him space and see if he eventually changes his mind. Good luck, by the way.
2006-07-07 22:15:33 · answer #11 · answered by yulrath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋