My Mom died when I was 12 & one of my neighbors has been like a Mom ever since, but especially lately, she's had a problem w/everything I say, and has an argument against everything I do/say. She doesn't want to talk anymore, but I really love her, and I need her in my life.
2006-07-07 15:03:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes I think you should try to save this relationship. If she has been like a mom to you, you can probably go ask her what's wrong. She's probably just trying to do what she thinks is best for you. It's just that maybe you don't understand each other's point of view. But you shouldn't scrap a relationship over an argument.
2006-07-07 15:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by germ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember when my mom died and I was sixteen and had to go and live with my aunt. Her kids were grown and married so I became like another daughter and we got close. Well, along the line something change this relationship and the closeness kinda went away and I felt like I lost another "mom", so I went out of my way to get to the root of what was the perceived problem and talked it out with my aunt and this changed everything! We became close again. You see, she felt threaten by my growing independence and feel that When I was grown enough to be on my own that I would no longer need her when that was entirely wrong! I would always need her and include her in my life!
I said all that to say this , try and find a time where you and her can have a heart to heart talk and get to the "root of what may be troubling her about you really. Communication is the key! Tell her just what you expressed above, that you Love her and need her to be a part of your life and see what happens from that point forward.
2006-07-07 22:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course if you had this relationship with the lady for a long time. However, she may need time for herself for she may be having a bad time with something you are not aware of.
Try writing her a letter (no e-mail here OK) in which you can tell her how and why she is so important to you. Also, tell her that you do not understand the reasons that made her take her distances.
Tell her that when the time is right for her, you would like to sit with her and talk about these feelings.
Lastly, do not make demands but show your true esteem and appreciation of all she has done for you until now and especially all the good advices and the comfort she has brought to you through the years.
Hope you will resolve the issue with her soon.
2006-07-07 22:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be she has issues in her own life that you are completely unaware of (i.e. financial, health troubles, etc). If this neighbor has been like a mom to you, then you need to tell her. Explain to her that you are appreciative of everything she has done for you so far, and you consider her like a second mom. Tell her you are sorry if there are things you do or say that upset her, but that you love her and this relationship is important to you and you don't want to lose the bond you two have. I think if you told her exactly how you felt, she will be more responsive and less likely to become irrational with you. Good luck to you.
2006-07-07 22:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Are you a teen about to grow up? Maybe she is feeling sad that she will miss you when you are all grown and gone...it is easier to say goodbye to someone you care about when you are fighting.
I would give her a mother's day card now and tell her how much you appreciate everything she has done. That you are sorry you have been fighting lately, but you hope time will make it better. That you promise to make an effort to keep her in your life and you hope she feels the same way. Hopefully you'll melt her heart.
Good Luck!
2006-07-07 22:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if your neighbor took you in then then she mush have been really close to your mom, so she is prob just struggeling with the lose not only for you but for her also, she is prob just trying 2 do the best thing for you, and what she thinks that your mom would have wanted, so yes i would say to try to talk it out w/her, so good luck
2006-07-07 22:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by klo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out. Ask her if there is something wrong.
Let her know how much you value her, and what she means to you.
Sometimes, we let personal problems effect our closest relationships. Unintentionally, and indirectly, it happens a lot. It isn't until someone pulls us back into line, that we change what we must change, in order to keep relationships healthy and alive.
2006-07-07 22:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should try to save it. Esp if she's like a mom to you. Maybe you should both go to family counseling. Talk to her. Let her know what's on your mind. Maybe mention to her that you think you should go to family counseling even tho you aren't flesh & blood cuz she's like a mom to you.
2006-07-07 22:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is pushing you away because there is something wrong and she doesn't want to break your heart. Tell her when she is ready you will be there for her. Continue visiting her and calling her regularly do not push her and do not talk about subjects that she tends to argue over.
2006-07-07 22:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and save this relationship because the loss of a mother is tragic and to find you someone you trust and is like a mom to you is hard to come by. save it.
2006-07-07 22:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kristine D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋