What should she do?

Question

I have a fifteen year old friend who got pregnant and now her family's threatening to throw her out of the house, her boyfriend hasn't shown up and her sister doesn't want to acknowlage her anymore. What advice can you give? Any advice will help. Thank you.

Answer 1

I wish I could slap your friends family. Unfortunatly, accidents happen, but they need to deal with this. Can you talk to your friend's family and explain that your friend really needs support and love right now. Remind her parents that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Right now i'm sure your friend feels like everyone she loved is abandoning her just when she needs help and support the most.
And about the baby, I would put it up for adoption. I absolutley hate the idea of abortion. No matter what anyone says, it is murdering your own child.
I am soo sorry that your friend has jerks for a family and boyfriend.
I think the best thing you can do for her is just be a friend, and if at all possible talk to the parents, or get someone they will listen to to talk to them. Your friend needs all the love and support she can get, especially with such a horrible family.
Best of luck to you and your friend.

Answer 2

By law her parents will go to jail if they throw her out of the house at the age of 15. They are responsible for her until she's 18. Don't call one of those pregnancy crisis centers all they do is push abortion and killing an innocent baby is not the right choice to make. If your friend has a steady job and other family members who will help her throughout the pregnancy and after the baby is born I would say she should accept the responsibility of be a mother since she thought she was responsible enough to have sex. Otherwise I would suggest she calls planned parenthood and sets up a meeting with them to discuss what ADOPTION options she has. There are many independent adoption agencies and so many people who would love to have children and can't. Many childless couples will even pay all medical and legal expenses for her and the baby. So the best thing she could do is be mature and talk to her parents about what she chooses to do. Don't yell back at them, just try to talk. I wish her the best of luck and I hope this will help

Answer 3

I was in the same position as you last year, my friend, 15, was pregnant by her boyfriend. I didn't know what to tell her because that was a first for one my friends to happen. Teen pregnancy is a very risky thing that will lead both the parents' lives in the wrong direction. She has to think of the "what ifs...". Things like "what is the baby has a mental disorder? how is the family going to be financed? who will look after the baby? what if the boyfriend leaves her? what will the future of the guy and girl become of? who will drive the baby to doctor checkups and shop for baby neccessities? There are so many things into taking care of a baby, they will drive her crazy.

Also, as my friend was going through pregnancy, I remember before this happened, she used to say that she would never keep the baby if she was ever pregnant. But the feeling of her being pregnant changes her outlook on things, she was a completely different person when she was pregnant, she felt like she was connecting with the baby. If decisions are to be made, your friend and her boyfriend needs to have a serious talk about the responbilities and commitment.

Answer 4

Hi. I am 14 years old and in the past few months my mom had twins. So i have alot of experience with babies. Anyway, her family can't throw her out because she is under 18. I know people are saying that she is a child having a child, but that isn't the truth. She is old enough to be able to care for a child because she is already 15, a teenager, not a child. Her parents will hopefully calm down. As far as school goes, she might have an aunt or grandparents that would be willing to care for the baby while she is in school. I would reccommend that you just back her up no matter what she does. To help her I would help her find a good doctor and prepare for what she is going to have to undertake. Good luck to her.

Answer 5

Just for those who don't know her parents can't just throw her out on the street but they can go to the courts and say they don't want her there because of her pregnancy and have her put in a group home. So don't sugar-coat it! My mother works in a group home that takes in pregnant girls who's parents "don't want them". There are a few options for your friend. She can call a crisis center and they will help her make the decision that is right for her. But she needs to talk to someone soon. All the stress she is under is not good for her or the baby.

Answer 6

Her family cannot legally throw her out. They are financially responsible for her (and the baby at the moment). They are also morally responsible for her and her actions. They will probably calm down over time but this is a child having a child. The family should hire an attorney to seek child support from the father and if he is over 18 prosecute him for statutory rape. Her sister is just being unfeeling.

The girl needs counseling. She needs it from an objective source. A good resource is a family pastor/priest/rabbi AND a mental health professional. She needs excellent prenatal care and, if she chooses to have the child adopted out a good adoption agency or lawyer that specializes in adoptions. There is a chance that an agency and/or lawyer could arrange to have all her expenses paid.

The other thing she needs is strong friends that will stand with her. She is going to need them. I hope you are one of them.

Answer 7

This is such a sad situation .Since the girl is only 15,and neither her "?boyfriend?" or her parents are being supportive,I believe that she should call Family Services and ask if she could be placed in a foster home that will take young,pregnant girls. I also think that if she really has the best interest of her baby in mink (and in heart) that she should allow her baby to be adopted by a couple who is mature enough,and financially able to care for this baby the it deserves to be cared for. This is a time to be totally sensible and unselfish. I will pray for her,

Answer 8

If your family can take her in, take her in. The worst thing you could do is let your friend be alone during this time. It's sad when parents do this to their kids instead of offering to help, but that is what you can do as a great friend. Help her go through the pregnancy and give birth to the baby, then it is her choice if she wants to keep it or give the baby up for adoption. But let her know that if she does give the baby up for adoption, don't only do it to get her family to love her again.

Answer 9

She is too young to be put out of her house make sure she understands that. The parents possibly mean that they will send her to a relatives house.Suggest counciling for the family if not for the family most definantly for her. There are also teen crisis centers for teens in your friends' postion.Visit the planned parenthood site it might give you some good resources as well .No matter what make sure you are there for her she really needs you.

Answer 10

Her parents can't throw her out because she's a minor, but.. there are many teen pregnancy houses that she can look up. I don't know where you are, so I can't help you there. Tell her to go to a sexual health center, go to the school guidance councellor.. I know that she would like to tell as little people as she can, but she is in a tricky situation.. and she needs help like never before. She made the bed.. now she has to lie in it..