y do adults tell teens to do one thing when they do the oppisite none of that parents arent perfect crap??

Answer 1

Parents shouldn't tell their children to do one thing while they are doing the opposite. First of all children follow their parent footstep. Children learn by example, not by what you tell them. Hey, if you smoke you can't tell them not to smoke, they will not listen. As parent we should realize that our children are another generation than the one we was. Today our children are very intelligent, as parent we need to be very careful of what we says or do in front of them. We parents need to come up with some other sentences like "okay kids smoking is not good for me and you and I am trying very hard to kick the habit I hope you do not follow me on that path, because as you could see it is not good for the body and it is very hard to stop" We need to explain situation to then instead of giving crap like parents are not perfect. If we give them crap like this, how do we expect them to behave. We as parent can't be parent and child at the same time. No one is perfect but our children expect us to be perfect. So stop the crap be a parent.

Answer 2

I believe children learn much more but what they see us do than what we say. I'm a proponent of practice what you preach. If we don't want our kids to swear, then we shouldn't swear. If we want them to act responsibly, then we need to do the same. One thing teens fail to understand is that with adulthood comes certain privileges, like being able to drink alcohol. We're supposed to be mature enough to drink responsibly and not drive after we've had a few. Someday, when you are a parent, I hope you'll remember what you've said here about "that parents aren't perfect crap!" Because it will come back to haunt you. I made many mistakes raising my sons. And when I screwed up I tried to own up to it. So, whether you like it or not, parents aren't perfect. They make mistakes. The only time we stop making mistakes is the day we die. However, it's great if you and your parents can sit down and calmly discuss why you feel they are being hypocritical. My eldest son and I used to have some really loud fights. Once the shouting was over we would talk for hours, starting with what we'd fought about and then going on to "solve the problems of the world." God bless!

Answer 3

Speaking from experience....I have a 17 year old -- i have ALWAYS preached against smoking......and i am a smoker.

I am a smoker because i am addicted. I am addicted because I was a fool. That mistake of starting smoking is one that i cannot take back now. I battle this all the time. when I get sick, i get a chest cold. I fear cancer, I spend senseless money, and i have no control. Addiction is not something i would wish on ANYONE, and it would break my heart to see my teenager light up. In short, I am a hypocrite. I preach to my teenager NOT to do something that I DO EVERY DAY. But it is because i know what will happen if she allows herself to be the stupid teenager i was. By the way... "Parents aren't perfect" is NOT crap. Please think about this....it is the hardest thing in the world for a parent to look at a child -- the person that looked up to them, and at one time, long ago, thought they were perfect....and have to admit, out loud, that you aren't the one with all the answers. That you aren't a hero, you aren't perfect....you're just a person. an IMPERFECT person, that wishes you could make your child's life perfect.....so we preach...even if we don't practice it. Because we love you.

Answer 4

There is an old saying of 'Do what I say, not what I do' but adults can be very contradicting.

You can't do what every 'wise' adult tells you to do, what I would recommend is taking their advice gratefully (in other words, don't say 'oh you're wrong') and try to look at the situation from all points of view, then make your own decision. You may be right, you may be wrong, but in the end, that isn't what matters, its that you weren't afraid to live and be.

Answer 5

When I tell my 16 y.o. son that he shouldnt do something, I am telling on myself, because the reason I tell him not to do something is because I did it and I know how it will play out.
Also, addressing your statement about "parents anrt perfect" being crap, remember that the thing you enjoy doing right now, you will probably enjoy doing when you are in your 30's, and just because a crack-whore has a baby, that doesnt make her mother of the year, it makes her a crack-whore with a baby. Giving birth does not cause a person to get smarter, or wiser, or even to become a decent person, they are who they are, only now they have another person who depends on them.

Answer 6

Adults are the ones held responsible for your actions. If they mess themselves up, no harm done. If they mess a teenager up, they can face jail time or losing custody of a kid. If you're 18 and you don't like the hypocrisy, you can always move out and take care of yourself. Then once you are independent you don't have to listen to experience.

Answer 7

Because we actually KNOW what its like to be a kid and then grow up and look back at our lives with personal judgement. I am not that old (28), and I am telling you that when you get older, you will totally understand your parent's perspective. You just can't hear it right now. You're not ready for it.

Answer 8

If your parents tell you to quit skipping school it is probably because they have seen you try and write a simple question on Yahoo Answers and they were appalled at what they saw. Just do as they say till your old enough to support yourself.

Answer 9

AS a parent of adults I never claim to be perfect.but I tried to help them not to make my mistakes.for as a human you make enough of your own...a lot of parents of teens go over board to try and protect them but most just try to help them not to hurt themselves..I was raised to the saying Do as I say not as I do.but I tried to raise mine as to protect and help them,,and admitted to my mistakes..and discussing things out ,,the kids have to put their opinions out and the parents should discuss their rules and why the kids should listen.Both sides need to be honest with each other.

Answer 10

because we learn from our mistakes and dont want children to follow in our footsteps. nobodys perfect everyone makes mistakes,the important thing is to learn from them,and not repeat them. most teenagers think they no everything and noone else does and there parents have forgotten what it was like to be a teenager in reality parents only want whats best for there kids