How do I raise my self esteem without the support of my peers?

Question

In light of how shitty people (in particualr, coworkers) are to the general populace, what is the best way to deal with a loss of self worth? I mean, if I have to deal with these ******* for the rest of my life, I might as well off myself right now!

Answer 1

I live in my own world and base my self image on whatever the hell I want.

Answer 2

Wow, your question is right down my alley. I work with some rather disturbed kids and their families. Many have low self-esteem and should.
As for raising self-esteem it is important to define the term operationally: self-esteem is what you say to yourself about yourself. If you are not very comfortable inside your skin you might say to yourself, "I'm not very cool because I do not have the Air Jordan shoes of the week and that is necessary in order to be a fine human being." Bull shirt.
I discuss self-esteem with my guys as a function of what skills they have, what they can do. THEN we teach lots of skills like welding, pulling car engines, chopping motorcycles, playing sports, learning how to build houses by volunteering for Habitat for Humanity.
It's like building a resume by doing things. You learn things, do things and put them on your resume.
After a while you look at your resume and think, this would make a fairly good obituary. Then you are done. Simple.

Answer 3

Sounds like your peers are a real drag. Dont let them drag you down, There opinion is NOT the real you, what matters is what you think. Just think about the good even little things in life that you've done. They will make you feel better and when you feel better it will show on the out side which in turn will force your peers to change their opinions about you to a more possitive one. Hope that you got what you wanted. You matter, this world would be less if you weren't here. If you feel good, they'll feel good!

Answer 4

The way you feel about yourself should not be based off of the way people feel about you. You need to do some soul searching and figure out why your self-image is so low. Join a club, take up a hobby, get counseling, start appreciating all the good things about yourself..anything. One thing won't fix everything.

Answer 5

Constantly remind yourself of how much you're worth, and remind them if you have to/are comfortable doing so. You know that you can't base your self-worth off of how they treat you. If you find yourself forgetting that, take a day off, do something you enjoy, something you're good at, do something nice for yourself and remind yourself that you deserve it. Also, set goals for yourself, something that is important to you, and celebrate when you reach them. Even by yourself, but with others if you can.

It helps if you make time for things you enjoy doing, and especially if you can occasionally talk to others who enjoy the same things or, whether or not they do, who have respect for you. If you can find anyone you're willing to talk to - and don't be afraid to ask, they're out there! - when you get down, someone who is willing to listen and tell you you're important to them can do a lot to help. The hard part is just getting out there and building that friendship (but it's possible, because I've done it).

Answer 6

what are the things your really good at? do them as often as possible and try to the best at them.always look to help someone. take a CPR course so that if the time comes you can save someones life and have an impact no one can take from you. volunteer to work at a helpline and walk away knowing you helped someone through a bad time and made a difference. appreciate art and the world around you. try talking with your family and friends, theres always someone your the favorite of! for example theres one cousin I've always been the favorite of and I feel the same. I was surprised when she told me but it did wonders for my own esteem. good luck and peace!

Vin

Answer 7

I read that "It's not them who upset you, you let yourself get upset by them", so don't give them that power.

I saw that in "100 ways to motivate yourself by Steve Chandler" and it help me. The book gives a lot of advices on realizing your own worth. After reading it I just thought to myself, who are they to mess with my precious time and change self esteem? Nobody important, so I won't give then that satisfaction.
I believe "the nagging boss's pets kind of people" have one objective, nag you and get on your nerves as a competitive sport. If you don't let them win, they, hopefully, get another hobby or even best you start annoying them with your happiness and your face of "sorry, talk to the hand because I'm too busy enjoying my life".

I believe in the phrase "the best revenge is living well" and also "there's a jerk in every office"

Good luck!

Answer 8

part of the the answer is in your question,you seem to care too much about what others think of you.your self worth is much,otherwise you would not be here,now,plant your feet firmly on this earth,know that you are no better than anyone else nor any worse,know who you are,let the bad come from them,it is very wise to not participate in bad actions.draw your strength from the inside,give little care to what others say,why should it matter,considering the source.you, like all humans have the right to be happy,you just have to find what this is.

Answer 9

You might start on your quest for higher self-esteem by using more positive notions about those around you. The people are less at fault than your attitude.

Help others. Love others. When you get a thanks from them, your self-esteem will take a positive hit. That will be a start.

Lynn

Answer 10

Keep in mind that the people who surround you are most likely ignorant morons who are completely unhappy with their lives. So nothing they say or believe should have any effect on you.

If you don't value them as humans, why value their opinion of you? It's called self-esteem because it has to come from yourself. You have to know who you are, work on perfecting your abilities, and be comfortable with your flaws.

Answer 11

Self help books.

Actually, I started looking into Buddhist views on everyday things like self-esteem, and that helps too.