i was dating a guy whom i loved and did all a could for him but we broke up just because he prefered his friend not me. i loved him even more after our fight i have never forget him. then i found another guy and get married one year ago. i love my husband and he loves me but i'm not sure if i love him as much as i loved my x. i love them both but i knew that i had to choose and i decided not to dream anymore ant to act before i loose everything. but sometime i worry, will i regret the choice i made, will i ever love my husband the way i would like to without the other one in between?
is there some one who can give me some moral support?
2006-07-07 13:46:24 · 14 answers · asked by singer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the guy you love more than your husband... broke up with you b/c he preferred his friend.. then forget him. Your husband is your life. Obviously the ex didnt love you as you loved him or he would have never hurt you. It is tough to get over a past love, however you can do it. Take one day at a time. Get to know your husband, spend time with him and your love will grow. You did the right thing.. you chose not to sit around and dream anymore. You got on with your life and although it might not be the love you once felt.. but give the husband a chance. Time will lessen the memories of you and your ex b/f. Just hang in there. Good Luck!!
2006-07-07 14:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that you love this other guy, but he dumped you for someone else and has moved on. You have married someone else. It is time for YOU to move on. Forget this other guy. He has evidently forgotten you.
No two loves are exactly the same. I don't love my fiance the same as I loved my ex husband at one time, or my first love as a teen, and I never will. There will always be a place in my heart for my first love, a foul place for my ex husband (long story short: he was a liar, cheater, user, abuser), and the rest (which is 99% of my heart) for my fiance. I wouldn't hurt him for anything because I thought that there was a slim to none chance of getting bak with my first love or someone else I had dated in the past, especially when I have the best thing in the world right here, right now.
You can't go back and get this other guy without hurting your husband, so you MUST forget about this other guy. Do you really want to hurt your husband and try to go for someone that evidently doesn't want you anymore? You need to live for the here and now, NOT for the past. The past is gone forever.
2006-07-07 20:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u married this guy u made a committment till death do u part. make it work with ur husband. hes the one who married u and made the same committiment to u. try not to think to much about ur ex b/c he must of not loved u if he broke up with u just for that. put all ur heart into the one u married he loves u. and that doesnt come 10 times in a life time. realize what u have.
2006-07-07 20:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side. I regret some of the choices that I've made, too. However, the only thing we can do is to live with them, and to make the most of what we have. Put the old guy out of your mind, your husband is your world now.
2006-07-07 20:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stop concentrating on what you could have had and concentrate on what you do have. If your husband is a good husband carry on with your life with him and forget this other guy. You broke up with this other guy because he preferred his friend over you, so............ what does that tell you? He didn't want you anymore, so don't waste anymore precious time on him. Don't compare the love you had for one man with another. That will just mess up your mind.
2006-07-07 23:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, your married but love another guy more. Why are you married then, you should go out with the guy you love more. See if he still loves you. if not your better off with the man your with now. Pick the man that treats you more like a girlfriend, who pays all attention to you and will do anything for you. Good luck!
2006-07-07 20:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are hung up on your ex, as long as you are hung up on 'what if'...you will never be able to love your husband like you should.
Your ex gave you his choice, his friend, not you. Your husband gave you his choice, you, with all his heart.
Do his love justice, get that loser ex out of your head and your heart, he has no business being there.
You are married, and should have enough love and respect for your husband to give him your heart and your head.
'What if's' are only good for driving you crazy and messing up good things in your life. Whatever effort you are putting into wondering, put into loving your husband.
2006-07-07 20:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is here to stay and he loves you and made a commitment to be with him. So just stick to him for the good time and bad time, in a long run you will be the ultimate winner. So hand tight and enjoy the ride. Good Luck...!!!
Remember, you don't want to be branded as a home wrecker...
2006-07-07 20:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by frustration 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to what you got and let go of the thoughts on the ex. Good luck:)
2006-07-07 20:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you married the person ur with now it was for better or worse.and get over the ex bf.cause now ur married to the guy you choose to be with.
2006-07-07 20:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋