My husband and I have been living in his father's house ever since we got married. We are very independent of him, we mind our business. Just recently, I started telling my husband that I want us to get our own place to be on our own. But that is not really the reason. My father-in-law has been acting "weird" with me. I never have acted funny with him, I have always respected him and his house, very careful to make sure that he does not hear or see anything he shouldn't. A couple of days ago, while I was going to the restroom in the morning, he walked beside me and stood in front of me and out of nowhere, he just dropped his pants and undies. He smiled and said "oops" and left. I didn't know how to react. I felt so ashamed. I did not tell my husband because the relationship between his father and him is a little shaky and I don't want to cause a big dispute. Every morning when I go to the restroom, he walks out of his bedroom in a towel (even if he has not taken a shower) and drops it.
2006-07-07 13:41:50 · 22 answers · asked by Magy G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is turned on by you. He has a strong sexual urge to be with you for whatever reason. Perhaps his sex life is poor. Perhaps he just likes younger woman. Perhaps his son's prowess is something he wants to re-live. In any case, you are in a dangerous situation (unless you have feelings for him as well; or if you actually acted on his forwardness at one point but are ashamed to admit it here). If you are honestly concerned then tell your husband exactly what is happening. His relationship with his dad comes second to his relationship with you (or at least should) and he will understand. If you have performed oral or anything else on his father you will need to be honest with your husband about that too (unless you don't want to leave and like the arrangement). I am not judging you just fishing out other scenarios that are possible.
If my dad was doing that to my wife, I would think he was a dirty old man, and would get my wife out of the dangerous situation immediately.
2006-07-07 13:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Payne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband. Have him catch his father in the act. The fact that their relationship is already shaky has nothing to do with you. Something happened in heir past that made it shaky. Your father in law is a bum and does not deserve the respect that his son is giving him. Do everyone a favor and spill the beans.
God Bless
2006-07-07 13:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by J. Brigante 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband does not want to move, then yes I would tell him exactly why you want to move to your own place. It may be silly things now with the towel and the oops but what happens if the old man reads you wrong and is deluded and thinks you want more? Think of what is important here, your safety or your husband and his fathers relationship?
2006-07-07 13:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, im sorry i'm not a guy but i had to answer. No offense, you father-in-law is perverted. Do tell your husband what he has been doing as motivation to move out. For now, is there another friend or relative that you can stay with while finding a house/apartment?
2006-07-07 13:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are well past the time when you and your husband should move out. I would talk to my husband that there are reasons that you want to get your own place without fully going into details unless you want a potential fight to take place between your husband and his father.
2006-07-07 13:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need to leave immediately. Tell your husband the truth and find someplace else to live, even if you have to beg to stay with other family, friends, or a long-term motel. Your father-in-law's behavior is perverse and disrespectful to you -- and your husband. Get out now. Good luck.
2006-07-07 13:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by mnstlgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father sounds like a pev I can't imagine how I would feel if something like that was to happened to me. I think you should try to talk to your husband again about getting a place of your own and if he does not want to, then I think u should go ahead and tell him and if he does not believe u, then u should try to prove it to him some how. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-07 13:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That nasty son of a biscuit eater. I'm not a guy, but I had to chime in. You shouldn't be embarrassed and your husband WILL be, but you should tell him, or show him. Tell him softly one morning: "I want you to see something. Peek out the door in a minute." Then..do your routine. That is too much for you to go through and experience yourself. That nasty goat. Free yourself by any means necessary, girl! That is NOT one secret you need to keep another day.
2006-07-07 13:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your father in law and let him know that if he does not stop you are going to tell you husband. Also take a pic to show your husband.
2006-07-07 13:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you have provided the solution to your very problem. Move out and you will not only save yourself then constant embarrassments you will also be doing your marriage a lot of good. It is obvious that two men are after you in the same house. I'd say run for your life.
2006-07-07 13:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mannie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋