when I met my Husband I wasn't a Virgin...?

Question

He has always wanted to have anal sex, so I told him that when we gott married I would let him deverginise my A SS lol, but I'm very worried. dose it hurt, will I enjoy it ,and my biggest concer is,

My friend once told me that people that get it in the A SS cant hold their S*hit. is this True? and that when they get older they will have diareha very often.

Answer 1

Have you told your husband that you are having second thoughts about this? I think you should be honest with him. Yes its going to hurt!!! That only makes sense. Only you will know if you enjoy it and only if you try it but DON"T DO IT UNLESS YOU REALLY WANT TO. I have no idea about what your friend told you but I think you should think about this a bit more and be honest with your man about what you decide.

Answer 2

Just be sure to use plenty of lube, and be very careful to consider his penis as contaminated after it's been in your rectum. I probably don't need to tell you this, but do not have regular sex after anal sex without washing him off first. I've heard that a condom is a good idea too if STDs are at all a possibility, although if you're getting married, it's probably less of a big deal.

Diarrhea is a condition involving extra-watery feces, anal sex can't cause your small intestine to work less efficiently.

I doubt that what your friend told you is true, and nothing in the Wikipedia entry on anal sex or my personal knowledge lends credence to her claim; however, I have never had anal sex myself and really can't answer that conclusively; maybe someone else will.

Answer 3

It's really sweet of you to offer this to your new husband on your wedding night. He will always remember it.

The things that your friend told you are NOT true. You will not become incontinent and you will not have chronic diarrhea.

Here's how to do it right.

1) Cleanliness: Give yourself an enema when you get to the place where you will spend your wedding night. You can use Fleet, but warm slight soapy water will work just as well.

2) Lubrication: Make sure that you are well lubricated. Put some KY or other sexual lubricant on your sphincter and on the entire length of his penis.

3) Trust: Talk beforehand. Remind him that it is your first time and you want to go slow and make it last. Get him to understand that the slower he goes and the more gentle he is, the more likely it will be fun for both of you.

4) Relaxation: You must become comfortable enough to relax all the muscles of your anus. There are the muscles of the sphincter (mostly near the outside) AND there are some muscles located just inside the rectum just "north" of the anus. Relax all of them inside and out. You may even "push out" just a bit to let him.

Don't give up if hurts at first. Ask him to back out. He can use his fingers on you to help you relax and to stretch a bit. You might have to do it a few times before you learn to relax completely.

What position should you do it in? What ever works for you. For your first time, it might be best for you to be on top so you can control things. It might make your feel safer and therefore easier to relax. Once he's all the way in, you can change positions if you want.

I like to use the missionary position for anal sex so I can see her face as I enter her. And, I like her to be face down on the bed so I can reach under her and massage her labia and clitoris. I think the latter is the best for the woman.

Also, you may want to save the anal for last. Give each other oral sex and have regular intercourse before moving on to anal. He'll be sated and apt to be as patient as you want.

One more thing: Afterward, take a quick shower together to clean each other. There are bacteria in the anal area that can cause infections. Don't take his penis out of your rectum and put it in your vagina. Take the shower first.

Good Luck. Live long and prosper together.

Answer 4

LOL
Your getting married and you've never had anal?
Sounds like you need to go experience the world before you settle down.
In any case, just like normal sex you have work up to it. Lube up and go slow. If he's big, it may take a few different tries to get things worked in. If he's little, your probably gonna wonder why you were so worried in the first place.

Answer 5

Some people do actually enjoy anal sex, and it has been said to cause future problems as the person ages, but initially, I think, if it just doesn't appeal to you at all, don't do it, and if you do it "for him" anyway be sure to use lubricant and be as relaxed as you can be, cause it'll make it easier for both of you, and people that do it shouldn't do it too often either.

Answer 6

well to be honest now it does actually hurt more because u'r a-ss has a smaller hole that can't get larger like the vigina but don't worry about the s'hit coming out of u'r *** it happens (not a lot but it happens) ouh and make sure u did u'r nr 2 in the morning just to be on the safe side

Answer 7

Im a guy obviously.
i like it.
that doesnt mean you will or wont though.
just take it slow ya know. and use lube.
what your friend told you is a myth. other wise san francisco would have **** all on the streets.(bottomsville california...)
anal sex is high risk sex though, i mean you have a vajj for a reason.
so be safe, be slow, dont let him pound you like a slab of concrete, its your body, and itl be your first time.
have fun.

Answer 8

it hurts like hell, normally only guys enjoy doing it, and sadists enjoy getting it. I did even get full penetration and I was near crying from the pain. Not to scare you or anything, but hey, now you know.
about the other thing, I don't think that's true, unless you do it A LOT.

Answer 9

no just make him loob up with some KY or something. Tell him to take it slow, so you don't tear anything. don't let him go too deep cause us big men can actually tear the inside, and cause a major surgury to have to happen. IF he's gentle enough you'll love it.

Answer 10

I had it once and lemme tell you it hurts like hell at first but man oh man its great once you get goin! By the way, use the kitchen table... THat is the best place to have it!