he will get mad at me and call me really evil things. then about 2 hours later he will call me and tell me he is sorry. i am just not sure what i can do about this. i am so lost. he was the one that wanted the divorce and now he wants to work it out. what should i do?
2006-07-07 13:34:05 · 44 answers · asked by techgurl2009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXX Shame on you for letting him call you names then apologize so he can make love to you. A future divorcee with benifits. That's what you are to him. Wake up, stop putting up with this, you deserve better than what you have now. Stop satisfying his sexual needs only when it's convenient to him. What are you getting out of this, nothing. Next time he calls you evil names then make love to you take $50 bucks out of his pocket. Atleast youare worth that much. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-21 11:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys need a "time out" ---you need to separate from each other for a while----no phone calls no nothing----then maybe seek out a marriage counselor----then determine where to go with the relationship---at this point sex shouldn't even be discussed--how can he think you would want to have sex when he's telling you he wants a divorce----get away from each other asap---you both need time alone to sort out your feelings then a counselor can help you decide what these feelings are all about---
2006-07-21 05:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by suepooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he wants to work on the marriage?
Is the only time he wants to work on it when you are having sex?
Or is he working on it in other ways?
If it is just when you are having sex then he is taking advantage of you. Then say NO
Make a list of what YOU think you guys need to work on. Make a list of conditions that will make it acceptable for you to let him move back home. If he won't work on that stuff then he is just using you for sex.
Get a backbone and just say NO if you don't think he is truely workiung on the marriage.
If he still calls saying evil thins the man has a problem. YOu need to see that it ends. Sounds like he is confused. or maybe is drinking or drugging.
It is time for you to mature and stand up firm for what needs to be done. If you are both working on the marriage than I applaud you. but, make sure iti s the marriage you are working on. not the sex
2006-07-21 12:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him sleep with you won't you just be confusing everything further? Sounds like he dosen't know what he wants, but why go thru a divorce process?? He just wants the cake and the icing honey. Actually he sounds like a fairly nasty guy. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise for you to find a new life.
2006-07-07 13:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him divorcing you means no sex with you. If you want to stay with him then u should work it out. But sit down and think is he only calling when he wants sex or just because he misses you.
2006-07-21 08:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting a divorce then you can't have sex with him. Everytime you have sex with him makes anything you've done in the divorce null and void. Didn't your lawyer tell you this? You say he wants to work it out now...do YOU want to work it out, or do you want to go ahead with the divorce? It's YOUR choice...I have a suspicion that he only wants to "work things out" so he can continue to have sex with you, so do you want to be used that way? It's up to you.
2006-07-15 08:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl what I will do is sit him down and tell him about the anger ment he is doing. then if he walks away and gets an attitude then comes back to you and say he is sorry, go through the divorce. if he loved you that much then he wouldn't set the divorce and wouldn't call you bad names. but if he sits through the talk then ask him why he wanted the divorce
2006-07-21 13:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by troix_welton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder why someone who doesn't continue in a marriage with me would still want sex from me. For whatever reason he made the decision to end the relationship so the "extras" that come with being married to someone should end.
My suggestion for you would truly evaluate who you are as a person and do what makes you happy. It's time to move on and look forward to a life without him in it as your husband.
I hope this helps.
2006-07-07 13:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by cdp_1818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him calling you names and wanting sex is not good enough to make you want to work it out with him. He's going to have to do a whole hell of a lot better than that and prove 100% that he is worth you wanting to be with him. Take it or leave it, the choice is his.
2006-07-07 13:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens, a girl at work went through that recently. She caught her soon to be ex with another woman on the side. She kicked him out and he started to want to have sex even though he might have said ugly things about her prior to asking. I would tell him to go to the local dive and find miss do me and leave you alone.
2006-07-07 13:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋