He lies for the most unimportant things in the world and even add details to it when he is lying.
2006-07-07 13:28:56 · 36 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
i expect he has a very low self esteam,and feels he needs to lie and exsagerate to make himself look and feel good,they even end up beliving there own lies,they are know as compolsive liars,there can be no trust in a relationship with someone with this problem and sadly without trust,there can not be a true relationship,as you cant build on lies,my advise to you is to get rid of him and make a knew life for yourself,as the chances of him ever changing are very slim,in fact the lies usally get bigger and bigger,so dont waist your time,good luck.
2006-07-07 13:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by norman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just reading a poll taken the other day and It asked 100 women the question, would you leave you spouse or other half if he lied. 90 pecent said they would leave, You have to be a bullshitter to live with a bullshitter, don't let this person take you down to his level. A lair is always a lair and don't let anyone tell you different, if he lies about little things he will lie about cheating on you, gambling behind your back, drinking to extremes. Listen to your heart and go with your guy feeling, it doesn't get any better. Pehaps leaving you person will open their eyes to the world and not keep them shut in their own private little world of lies. Good luck
2006-07-07 13:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd start wondering if he has some sort antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). Does he have problems at work? Does he lie to make himself look better? Here are some traits of someone with ASPD
1. Failure to conform to social norms;
2. Deceitfulness, manipulativeness;
3. Impulsivity, failure to plan ahead;
4. Irritability, aggressiveness;
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of self or others;
6. Consistent irresponsibility;
7. Lack of remorse after having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another person.
Of course he may be just a common variety jerk, but still, you may want to think about what else he is doing.
2006-07-08 00:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alice Chaos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you ask questions that could be provocative? It is fairly common to avoid an "unimportant" argument by simply lying. Do you accept his first answer or do you ask follow up questions ? If he thinks you're digging a little too deeply, he may be throwing up a wall (lies) to avoid the questions. What to do with him? Lay back. Given enough rope he will hang himself, or begin to feel comfortable enough with you that he doesn't have to be on the defensive all the time. That's the bottom line you know...it's a defense.
2006-07-07 13:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by surftele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling because there has to be a deeper underlying reasons for his actions that he may not even be aware of. Plus if he lies for the unimportant things he maybe lying about the important ones....
2006-07-07 13:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by nadia m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can somehow get him in front of a Pastor, and let the Pastor talk to him. Once he lies, the Pastor will put the shame of lying in front of God and Christ. This might bring him around. I have an issue with my girl, she doesn't have to or need to lie to me at all, but her past hasn't left her yet. She will make things up for no reason. I tell her she needs to tell the truth to me, that I don't care what she tells others, but for this relationship to be strong and truly last, she has got to stop lying to me about anything. I don't even care what she does, just don't lie about it. --Take that anyway you can, and good luck. I feel ya.
2006-07-07 13:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by fingerssfv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your husband? If so you married him knowing this. If you say you didn't then either you are lying or you overlooked it for some other reason. So unless it is a danger to you or you are willing to leave him you may have to just live with it.
Not only that but it is kind of rude to bring this up on the web. How would you like it if he brought up your problems to the public on the web.
You both should seek professional help.
2006-07-07 13:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by triathlon1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend lies to me too. If you know for sure he's lying about something, confront him about it and ask him why he feels he has to lie to you. Do you ask him the same questions over and over or do you freak out when he tells the truth? You should tell him that you feel his lying is unimportant and that he has no reason to hide anything from you... you are his wife and you should be respected by him.good luck!!
2006-07-07 13:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by justme87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you could have gave an ex.. Sounds as if hes insecure about him self..Have you ever sat down and tryed talking with him and letting him know that you love him for him not for any other reason..be kind and gentle the way you do it but tell him you know when hes lieingand that hes got all your love just being him, hes enough for you.... BEST I can do for you Darlin LOL ROB
2006-07-07 13:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he lies about unimportant things what makes him tell the truth about important things? i ask him to go to therapy if that didn't work leave
2006-07-07 13:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by stephlibb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋