I lost my will to fight when I made a conscious decision to stop being so emotional 20 years ago. In the process of controlling my emotions (stop being a cry baby, having temper tantrums and such) I shut off my passion, my competitive spirit, and apparently that will to win. What’s the best way to get it back?
2006-07-07 13:25:55 · 7 answers · asked by King H 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One way to get back your competitve spirit is by reading influential books. Since you have a good control of your emotions you would feel so bad when something disappoints you. So try simple things like dressing nicely and making sure your hair is done to perfection. Then go out to the club and be appreciated.
2006-07-07 13:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really?! I've been trying to do the same thing. *I'm in tears* Everyone is always telling me I'm over-reacting! I keep hearing that I get too emotionally invested in everything...which isn't true...I just happen to have a lot of important things going on in my life and I'm very passionate about them all. And yeah, I'm competitive... if I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it well, darn it... what's the point if you're going to have a half-as**d attitude about it?!
I'm not sure how to tell you to get your spirit back because I didn't think there was any way to even tone mine down a notch. Feel free to click on my i.d. and send me a message and I'll sure help if I can. All I can say for sure is hats off to cry babies and temper tantrums! It's part of who I am and if I call it competitive spirit or passion or whatever... regardless of what I'm doing at the moment I give it all I've got and I'm going to continue to do so and I hope you will too! More power to ya'!
2006-07-07 20:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No BS, go out and engage in direct competition without hessitation. Going head-to-head with someone and losing always gets your fire going. For example, if you like to play any sports, go goin a team and become the best. Once you start to out perform your competition, you'll feel better.
2006-07-07 20:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by catshuffpaint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, what drives me to excellence and to give it my all and "go the extra mile" is a healthy dose of personal pride. Pride goes before a fall, but it also keeps us motivated to make sure we don't look like a fool in front of others.
I want my coworkers and family to respect me and think well of me. (I also want to keep my job!) So when I feel like slacking, I think how others will perceive me and how I *want* them to perceive me and then I can keep going.
Yes, I know it is not what you usually hear-- and believe me, I know how to let it go. "Who cares what others think?" is my mantra in other areas of my life. I don't let public opinion or peer pressure rule me in other important things. But I definitely use it as a tool to help motivate myself, especially at work.
It also helps me to remember that I could spend months building a good reputation and lose everything I've gained through one careless comment or email. So it keeps me sharp.
2006-07-07 20:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by NeferMaat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You emotions make you human. Denying them is not possible, unless your mr. spock.
Pay more attention to your emotions. It's normal and healthy to cry.
all that other crap (your too sensitve, stop crying, get a grip, etc) is
spoonfed hogwash.
2006-07-07 20:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the gym. get a regular routine going and set realistic goals and meet them. this will start to give you determination and drive.
2006-07-07 20:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick it in gear when you are being confronted and just let it out.
It is still there and once released it will flow out.
Once that happens you will feel better and things will change.
2006-07-07 20:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋