Are men & women turned gay or lesbian or are all of them born that way?

Question

I personally believe they were turned gay and also bisexuals, not meaning that's it’s all bad

Answer 1

If you're expecting an end-all-arguments sort of answer on THIS forum, you're not going to get one. Both sides feel very strongly about whether you're born into it or turn into it later. In my opinion (no matter what scientific evidence someone gives you on either side), it's a matter of both nature AND nurture. If it were simply one or the other, we'd know for a fact by now what the answer is. People cannot deny the fact that many homosexual men grow up without a father or with an overbearing over-masculine father. People also cannot deny the fact that many homosexuals have traits of the opposite sex at very young ages, which would lead many to conclude that they're born that way.
To say that it's simply nature doesn't make diddly squat sense to me considering the fact that some people who were once homosexual now find themselves in loving heterosexual relationships. If it were all nature, the homosexual gene would be dwindling if the homosexuals aren't creating new life to pass the gene on (but many homosexuals DO procreate, so only time will tell on this one). On the flip side, if it's nurture, then it would make sense that a homosexual father or mother would raise a homosexual son or daughter.
Either way, my point is that there's no way you'll find a definitive answer on here, because there ISN'T one yet.

Answer 2

I have a transgendered friend who discussed with me some concepts that only recent studies have brought forward.

As I understand it, the main theory about TG is that during a certain time in development, the brain of a fetus becomes affected by hormones that may or may not be related to the hormones controlling the rest of the physical development.

For most of us, the hormones take us the same direction as the physical; for others, testosterone hits when it should have been estrogen (or whatever hormones do the trick) or vice versa.

I think it is still a mystery how it all fits together, but from what I've heard from the few I've heard it from, if it wasn't from birth (or in the womb before birth), then it was from so early in development that the subjects can't remember when it started.

My TG friend lettered in sports, but always felt that she had an appendage between her legs that didn't belong. She married and had lovely children by her wife, but was always feeling pressure to resolve the physical with the mental, and eventually, the draw toward that was so strong that she did. To do it, she had to lose her wife (heterosexual, not lesbian) and the kids to various levels of rejection by them, despite the love she felt for all in her family.

I do not envy gays, lesbians, bisexuals, or transgendered. But, that is mostly because I don't fully understand.

Lynn

Answer 3

For me, I was sucked into it. LOL! Just kidding. I slay myself...

I was born this way. Doesn't matter that I have had 12 female lovers and only 1 male one for 20 years, I know, I have always been and will always be gay.

The fact that I ignored it, hid it, tried to pass it off as a phase and for a time bisexuality doesn't change the fact that I have always been gay.

Answer 4

In some cases, gays are just people who were born with genetic tendencies toward a homosexual thought pattern. But in other cases, like I believe my own, they are the product of a strange upbringing. You see, in childhood we are said to be attracted to the opposite-sex parent despite being cared for by the one of our sex (according to Freud). And if that caring from the S.S. parent continues in personal ways until a time of good memory and maybe even the beginning stages of sexual maturation, we may have a deeply-imbedded desire to be cared for by our own sex. (A boy may have an Electra Complex while a girl may have an Oedipus Complex as opposed to vice-versa.) In my case, I blame my own lesbianism on my not being trained until 2.5+ and then being wiped until school-age (Mom even cleaned a mess in my panties when I was like 8 or 9, thus scarring me for life). Because of this, women like the hot, sexy teacher that just gave me a 101 in the class turn me on because I feel a "maternal bond" with older ladies even if they're Asian. So I believe you should always think of a gay person as maybe a kid that was mollycoddled at an ungodly age. After all, I played with babydolls, Barbies, and purses, so I wasn't born a boy in a girl's body or anything.

Answer 5

What would it take to "turn you Gay?" Since you believe that people can be "turned," what would it take? Or are you judging other people to be different than you??? Just curious as to where you are operating from. Is this experience? When did you choose to be straight if this is a choice. At what age did you make this decision? If you were held down and raped by a gang of thugs, would that make you Gay?

Answer 6

Born that way. My best friend has a philosophy: Everyone is a little bit bisexual, just some more then others. Some can look at a piece of art and enjoy it no matter what gender it is. Some want to do the person in it. Some freak because they aren't comfy with what they are looking at. There are also levels of being bi, just psychical/sex, just emotional, and love. They vary in degree and can mix. I know guys who just like dick, and I know people who really love a same gender friend, but aren't in love with them. And then people who have sex with their own gender and are in love with them.

Answer 7

If you or gay you are born gay you just don't pop up gay but the thing is some people don't realize it or find themselves until later on in there lives while other act display the fact that they are gay in there child hood years

Answer 8

Born that way. I read in some recent articles that about 9% of ALL the animal kingdom is gay. So it had to be biological and chemical.

Answer 9

People are born gay or bi or transgendered they don't make a choice and why would some one make a choice that could lead to them being treated with scorn for the rest of your life

Answer 10

There is no such thing as born, anything. You're not born liking a certain color or smells. It's what you are exposed to and how you react to those exposures, some of which don't come out until later in life.