If you accidently found out your husband was having an affair with another woman and he says he's in love with her, do you plead for him to stay and try to work at the marriage or would you put him out?
Do you think its only woman who are desperate enough to keep a man in their life, for whatever reasons, that would take him back?
your opinions please...thanks
2006-07-07 13:13:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you beg him, and he stays, he won't change. He'll end up hurting you again. Its hard now, but trust me trying to work it out and going thru it all over again down the road it a whole lot harder!!! Plus.. once you get over him, which you will...you'll hate yourself for ever having begged someone to stay with you. Its just so demeaning and you are right, its only the ones desperate or afraid of being lonely that would want to keep a man in a loveless marriage. Trust me, it is loveless, if he has been with another woman. I've been down the road twice, and finally learned my lesson. Theres some one out there for you, pray that the lord will lead you to them. Good luck sweetie!!!
2006-07-07 14:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by catlady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Accidentally"??? Whatever!! Women have a "Sixth sense" when it comes to infidelity. You were probably trying to convince yourself that it was ok and it was something that you could deal with. I'm not sure about that, but you seem to seek opinions over the matter rather than discuss this with your husband. No woman deserves to deal with cheating unless you enjoy having power over your other half. If you can deal with this issue for the rest of your marriage, stay. But if its going to become the cornerstone of every arguement you have from here on out, save your breath and leave. Gudluk
2006-07-07 20:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would put him out. There is no reason anyone should try to work something out with someone that obviously is not happy with something in that relationship. Infidelity if the most dis-respectful thing a person can do in a relationship. Its also very SELFISH. I think woman are more likely to accept a man that has cheating on them before because we think more with our feelings instead of our heads. GUYS DO NOT FORGIVE CHEATERS. At least most of them don't because they see it as a violation.
2006-07-07 20:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by *♥*fabulous fab*♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't just the woman ... husbands have often been the ones stabbed in the back by a cheating wife. What do you do? Well, in my case, I tried to work out the marriage. But once I was sure she was done with me, I let it go.
2006-07-07 20:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really wasnt an accident that you found out your husband was cheating!
in order for the marriage to work both parties have to be WILLING to work at the marriage. to me, it doesnt sound like he is willing to work at your marriage. because he is not willing i think it may be better for you all to eventually go separate ways.
ultimately its your decision how long you stay around waiting to see if he will be ready to work on your marriage.
i dont think its desparation when as affair happens and the other person is forgiving enough to work on the marriage. it requires alot of work from both people in order for it to work.
2006-07-07 21:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only would I put him out, I'd punch him out. Plead for him to stay? lol I don't even think so.
2006-07-07 20:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you make a withdrawal at the fidelity bank and trust, no more deposits are allowed. dump the loser. but clean out the bank account first, get a good lawyer, and have him pack his miserable bags. maybe the other one will take him.
2006-07-07 20:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should send him packing and let him be on his way and don't look back.
2006-07-07 20:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋