2006-07-07 12:52:53 · 38 answers · asked by Alyssa B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Obviously you are not gay, so don't have sex with her. You might enjoy the act, but come to realize that it is a life style you don't want to get involved with. It can become addictive and then you will be dealing with a lot of guilt and confusion about your own self and identity. Also, you will give your friend wrong signals. If you keep hanging with her, she will probably keep hitting on you. It is time for an exit strategy. She may not understand, but she is confused already! Don't make her problem become yours. People will start associating you as a lesbian as well, if she is the company you keep.
2006-07-07 13:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be her friend but if you reeeeeally don't trust that she won't try anything on you, then make sure that you're never alone. If that's still not enough, then maybe you are better off not being friends wit her. BUT, I believe that the best solution is to talk to her bout it. Tell her what you feel bout it. Say that it's not your thing. Make SURE that she understands what you're saying. That you don't EVER wanna do anything wit her. If she gets mad let her get mad. Maybe she's not as good of a friend as you thought she was (respecting your wishes). If you tell her that you don't want to, well then this'll be a test of your friendship & how much she values it. If she values your friendship she wouldn't push it. Good luck !!!
2006-07-07 12:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you need to figure out whether you want to have sex with her or not. If you do, well, congratulations, have fun.
If you don't, then you need to explain to her kindly but very clearly that you're sorry, it's a very flattering offer but you're just not interested, she's just not your type, but that you would still like to be her friend, and does she think she could cope with that, or would it be too upsetting for her to be around you?
If she can't get over the feeling while beeing around you, the two of you may need to avoid each other for a while.
2006-07-07 13:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cummen from another womens side of veiw i think you could still be friends with her, but you need to draw a boundary line and let her know that you are not interested in that type of thing. ( i dont know if you are or not) but thats just what i would do just to let her know as a friend that im not a lesbian. and if you tell her that she should get the point but just in case if she doesnt then i would kind of back off of her as in: drift away from her ................start hanging out with other people .
2006-07-07 13:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she want to do things with you and you don't, just tell her-if she's a friend, she will respect that. And that is as far as it should go...if that isn't enough for her, tell her she needs to move on because you're not into that sort of thing. If you are however, then, yeah, hang out with her...it all depends on what you want to do and what makes you feel comfortable!
2006-07-07 13:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it another way... if you had a guy friend who wanted to have sex with you, what would you do. Chances are, if you didn't care for him "that way" then you would spend less time with him. Partly it would be to spare his feelings, and partly because you were no longer comfortable as "just friends."
If you aren't interested in her that way, then it is better if you spend less time together or only meet in group situations.
2006-07-07 12:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you establish BOUNDARIES. As long as she respects those boundaries, you continue to love her and be her friend. If she doesn't, how many times you continue to forgive and try to make her understand is up to you.
I wouldn't give up on her just because you feel uncomfortable around her. I think that has more to do with you than her.
Learn to be more and MORE accepting and loving of people who are different, and not just tolerant.
2006-07-07 12:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by koolbreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a hypothitical question or a question that you were actually asked.
If you are anticipating that she is going to ask you to experiment with her, you can tell her no that you are not interested and you don't want to ruin your friendship.
If this is something that she actually asked, tell her how you feel, either you do or don't do it.
If she is your friend, chances are that she doesn't want to ruin the friendship you have and you might not even be her type!
2006-07-07 12:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why you could not be friends.
I am sure that oyu have guy friends that might want to tag you too...
But you just say no I don't want to just like you do the guys.
Why waste a friendship?
2006-07-07 12:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes But Tell Her The Way That You Feel.
2006-07-07 12:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋