I don't know what to tell him and I told him I'm stright and thats it, I'm thinking i should stop hanging out with him. What do you think?
2006-07-07 12:50:33 · 29 answers · asked by Joe Ivan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why would you stop hanging out with him? Do you think his "GAYNESS" will rub off on you? He has been your friend for seven years, he told you this because he thought he could trust you and you could handle it! The only thing that is different from what you knew about him before is he likes boys instead of girls! Nobody is saying YOU have to date men, he just chooses to! He obviously has some good qualities to make you want to stay friends with him for seven years, why give that up now because you're uncomfortable with the situation? Talk to him and tell him that you'll need some time to get use to this. He could probably use your friendship now! Try to get over these ideas of what you THINK gay people are like, and just be his friend.
I know you're probably shocked about this, and that doesn't make you a bad person. People can say all they want that they would be ok with it if they had a family member of friend tell them that they are gay, but I don't care who it is, you're going to be shocked! When my friend told me she was gay, I spit my drink out! I was floored! But I realized she was still the same funny, outgoing, smart person I had always known! I just had to find someone new to pick up on guys with!!! LOL!
Oh, and a word of advice! Don't always remind your gay friend that you're straight....He already knows and he's not out to hit on you!
Support your friend, Sweetie!
2006-07-07 13:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why react? He is your friend, isn't he? He hasn't hit on you, has he? You don't have to condone his lifestyle choices. Just clarify that you are not interested in participating in his sexual orientation. Other than that why change things (I know you will because it upset you enough to post) if he was honest with you and wanted to tell you the truth about his life. He trusts you to remain his friend otherwise he wouldn't have told you.
PS I do not condone in any way his lifestyle, but as a friend I would not walk away either.
2006-07-07 12:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are his friend, support him he must have trusted you a lot in the first place to tell you just because hes gay now doesn't make him any different to how good of a friend he was before he told you. how would you like him to react if it was you telling him after 7 years of friendship
2006-07-07 13:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're at liberty to make the same kinds of choices that he does. He's comfortable being gay and your friend. Your not comfortable with it and you can choose to not be as close a friend. I think you choose other friends in similar fashion, leaning more to those with similar interests and agreeable habits. Even religious people show preferences for those with similar beliefs and stay away from those with opposing beliefs. It's just a choice you can make.
2006-07-07 12:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your friend so you shouldn't just desert him. Tell him that you want to restrict some of the content of your conversations ( like, talking about "cute" guys) because you don't feel comfortable discussing certain things. It might be weird for a while, but if he isn't making moves on you, there is probably nothing to worry about.
2006-07-07 12:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should act just like you always have !!!
Nothing has changed, do you understand that? Nothing between you and he has changed you are still friends and if he never mentioned it you would not know any different.
So why waste a long time friendship???
Let him play hide the sausage and as long as it isn't with you it shouldn't matter.
2006-07-07 12:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by pelt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't have been that good of friends for 7 years and not know. Think about it. There had to be some signs.
2006-07-07 12:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No use to lose a friend over something like that you should support him and still be there for him you may be disgusted , just tell him youd prefer not to talk about his sexuality when your around
2006-07-07 13:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by cotton_candy_icp_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stop hanging out with him you are not a good friend so what he is gay that doesnt mean you are it is not contagious you wont become gay from hanging out with him just be his friend he trusted you enough to tell you that he was gay so that shows that he trusts you be a good guy and stick it out he is your friend would you stop hanging out with him if he told you he aids or diabetes
2006-07-07 12:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by dnbbrown2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋