i don't know what else to do after 5 years of marriage and it has been rocky since year ago
2006-07-07 12:48:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It pains me to say so, but you can't get through to your husband if he is not willing to let you do so. Stop trying. Start taking better care of yourself. Be strong. Insist he go to counseling with you as soon as you can get an appointment. If he refuses to go, then, go alone and prepare yourself for a better life--even if it is without him. Best wishes!
2006-07-07 12:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by magnoliasandjazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get him to go to counselling. 9/10 times it doesn't work but it at least helps you for a new relationship. it also depends on what you are trying to get thru to him. are you trying to get through to him that the marriage is rocky or something else? more details would help.
2006-07-07 12:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by mickey e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I feel for you, I was married to a guy like that for 10 1/2 years, he would listen to his Mom, once in a while, but I found that if I wrote down whatever was bothering me it would have a better effect, or send him an E-mail, and say his name throughout.
2006-07-07 12:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Merrilly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My estranged husband is very much like that. One time he actually threw his OWN father out of our house because he didn't like what his father was saying to him - basically about growing up now, he's married with kids...I never found the answer, I'm sorry to say for myself, and to tell you. However, remember, never say never! I hope you find some way to get through to him before it's too late. Good luck!
2006-07-07 12:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to divorce him-then maybe he'll start to listen to you...have you thought about marriage counseling? I've been married almost 4 years and I know what you're going through. If you ever want to talk-I'm here...good luck!
2006-07-07 12:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make your husband listen and do what you want. People do what they want no matter who is telling them otherwise. Maybe you need to realize that your husband doesn't want to do whatever you are trying to get him to do. I think you don't like what he is telling you so you are trying to manipulate by using his family into getting what you want.
2006-07-07 12:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by lilos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your looking for an out get a C#ck under glass and use him when your hub ain't around. if your going to get a divorce then go ahead and do it 5yrs is a bit long.
2006-07-07 13:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Garubamon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try listening to him Behavior always follows values. Always. He's pursuing something he values. So, spend some time understanding what it is that he values, and why. If that value is rational, then... change your attitude, not his. If that value is irrational, point out why. Don't try to change behavior. That never succeeds, as it always follows value. Try to change his values by showing him how irrational they are.
2006-07-07 12:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat, and there really isn't anything you can do about it. Depending on how important it is, keep trying. Hopefully, eventually he will come around...
2006-07-07 12:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by onefreaklikeme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him. that might sink in. or tie up a full bag of garbage and put it on his side of the bed then tell him "id rather sleep next to the garbage then you ".
good luck.
2006-07-07 12:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋