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okay my parents are divorced and im usually with my mom and she has a bf but why doesnt my dad tell me nething about his life why it makes me feel so unhappy and sad sometimes

2006-07-07 12:41:35 · 19 answers · asked by wootwootimndahouse 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

19 answers

You should sit down with your dad and tell him how you feel.

2006-07-07 12:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You probably feel sad about the situation because it makes you feel like he does not want you to be a part of his life (closing you out in a way). Why he is being so secretive is beyond me. The best thing you can do to really know whats up is to give him a call and ask him whats going on. It does not only have to be a call, you could have lunch or something and talk about it.

2006-07-07 12:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I went through the same thing, my parents divorced when I was 11, My mom moved on a couples of times, finally she married when I was 15, but my father he just never had a gf. I would always ask him about it but he would just tell me he didn't date. Come to find out years later he did in fact date but chose not to subject his children to different gf's. He felt that it was wrong to bring other women in to our lives other than our mother. At least untill he foud the right one. My father ended up remarrying when I was about 16, to a very close friend of his. He said we would find out when he did. Now I'm 23 and understand why my father never told us about his other gf's and I agree. Ask yourself this, do you really want to know about the other women if in fact he is dating, or would you rather find out who he picks to spend the rest of his life with. See most men view things from a logical stand point, why tell if there really isn"t much of a story. Where as women are more emotional and want everyone else's opinion before they make there thier decision, especially thier children's.

2006-07-07 12:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your dad probably doesn't know what you want. Talk to him. Maybe ask him if you two can go do something sometime. Or, if he is far away, set up regular times to chat online or call him on the phone. Ask him specifically about his life--don't interrogate, but just ask. His relationship with you is up to him (he's the adult). So if he's willing to lose a great relationship with a fantastic kid, that's his problem.

2006-07-07 12:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0 0

i'm questioning if there is something extra in the back of your question, like perhaps you at the on the spot are not feeling loved adequate by using your dad? What do you imagine? Dad has a accurate to three privateness if he doesn't want to communicate about it, yet why not enable him understand what you're feeling. case in factor, are you feeling skipped over of his existence? Are you wanting extra time with him? do you want extra affection from him? enable him understand how you're feeling.

2016-10-14 05:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by pelt 4 · 0 0

He probably doesn't think your ready to know. Or he doesn't want to tell you becaause you might tell your mom. Same for me my mom and dad are seperated and I live with my mom. My dad has a gf and my mom has no bf, so she says but she has all these men friends and says she has no bf. I don't believe her and when I ask she acts like nothing is going on and nothing is wrong...

2006-07-07 12:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

For sure your dad does'nt want to make you feel sad, he thinks that you are young for these type of problems, but because your mom is close to you, she does not hide anything, your must face your dad and tell him about your love to him and make him feel that you will be able to handle whatever he says or does, at that time he will tell you everything

2006-07-07 12:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

As a father of 2 daughters and having been in a similar situation I can think of several reasons why he may not want to tell you about his life but the most obvious one to me is the fact you are living with your mum and he would know you and her would have discussions regularly so perhaps he is just trying to protect himself about your mum knowing his private business. I think the best way to get your dad on side is to ease him into talking about things, tell him about yourself with very little mention of your mum or her b/f and if you hve to talk about them tell only stupid things that may have happened around them. Like me, when I divorced, I felt lost and alone mainly because as I had daughters and had never really spent a lot of time with them particularly through their teens and young adulthood as it is a time mothers really take over and girl talk and girl things are what mums are good at and they had already passed through my life to a great extent at that time....... if your dad is anything like me and you raised in a similar way he may be a little perplexed about your wanting to talk but believe me IT IS NICE TO HAVE YOUR DAUGHTER CALL AND TALK just be gentle with him and he will come around, you will be great mates again once he knows you are not prying or just calling for info to pass on to someone else.

Good luck ! I now have 2 very good mates and they are my daughters.

2006-07-07 13:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by tusitala 3 · 0 0

It is simple. Most kids do not want to hear what is happening in a parents life.

Talk to him and be part of his life so you will already know what he is up to with out having to ask.

2006-07-07 12:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by dd_otis 2 · 0 0

You didn't say how often you see your dad, or how old you are. I would think that perhaps you could ask him, go to lunch and just talk about the things that you have been wondering about. Good luck.

2006-07-07 12:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0 0

Because your Dad knows that his problems are not yours to worry about. You probably feel sorry for your dad, but he doesn't want your pity, he just wants your love. He will introduce you to his girlfriend when/if he decides it's serious enough to involve you.

2006-07-07 12:45:45 · answer #11 · answered by Doodaa 2 · 0 0

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